Not many couples our age (young)?

[kristielane82]

Ok, I don't mean to sound snobby and I hope this doesn't come out that way. My husband and I are 24 and rather new to swinging and I have already become frustrated. It seems that whenever we go to a club we are far better looking and younger than anyone there! I was just wondering if there are not many people our age involved in swinging?? Has anyone else encountered this problem?? We have met one couple our age and it was very enjoyable, so they have given me a little hope to hang in there. At this point though it's getting a little annoying that most of the people there are my parents age. Any advice on this issue?????

[CuriousInOregon]

I would suggest that you talk to your club administrator and ask if there is a Night that is devoted to a 20's crowd other than that its the Luck of the draw

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by kristielane82

Ok, I don't mean to sound snobby and I hope this doesn't come out that way. My husband and I are 24 and rather new to swinging and I have already become frustrated. It seems that whenever we go to a club we are far better looking and younger than anyone there! I was just wondering if there are not many people our age involved in swinging?? Has anyone else encountered this problem?? We have met one couple our age and it was very enjoyable, so they have given me a little hope to hang in there. At this point though it's getting a little annoying that most of the people there are my parents age. Any advice on this issue?????

In our mid 30's we tend to be on the younger side at the local clubs.

Think swinging doesn't really start until your 40's in the midwest for most.

[ItTakes3]

"Caste System" in the Lifestyle Based on Age/Beauty?

[Alura]

It takes a very strong marriage to sucessfully swing, Kristielane. For most folks, it takes a long time and a marriage or two to learn to communicate well enough to swing.

Young folks who develop the necessary skills early on are rarer than those who have had twenty years of marriage to learn to understand each other.

That's just my opinion, of course.

Mr. Alura

[flkeyscouple]

Originally Posted by Alura

It takes a very strong marriage to sucessfully swing, Kristielane. For most folks, it takes a long time and a marriage or two to learn to communicate well enough to swing.

Young folks who develop the necessary skills early on are rarer than those who have had twenty years of marriage to learn to understand each other.

I agree with Alura. I don't think my communication (when I was in the mid-20's) was anything near what it is now. We needed the time to learn to love, communicate, trust, and be open. I am not saying that we were not in love, good at communication, untrusting, or not open - I am saying it took TIME to be comfortable. I hope that makes sense.

Therefore, the lifestyle has more participants that are older. That's not to say you won't find many in your age group. I think someone that suggested asking the club to promote a 'young' day had a great idea!

Good luck!

Sarah

[Mr. Truelove]

Mrs. Truelove and I are 29, I feel we communicate well and possess many of the traits that we feel are necessary in swinging. We went to a meetup and got along wonderfully with everyone there despite many of them being older than us to some degree.

We've met some that are in our age bracket, I think give or take 5 years would qualify, and they were all very good people. But overall I think many people in their 20s just don't get swinging the way I think you should. So I think that makes things difficult.

Lookswise, I'd love to swing with 20ish people. But I'm really looking for people in their mid-thirties as our personalities will probably mesh a lot better. THis might come out as being a little narcissistic, but that isn't the intent.

I feel like we are one of those rarer couples that Alura speaks of, and I hope you are too, but realize, until we get older it'll be a little harder to find partners with a level of maturity that will make swinging truly fun.

Everyone finds different types of people attractive. But I have definitely seen woman ages 30-50 that I find to be very attractive. I chalk this up to most swingers having a more youthful personality, and taking care of themselves better than the average person. So don't rule the older ones out, you might be missing out!

Mr. Truelove

[richdon03]

Other suggestions would be to ask others at your club if they know of clubs that cater to crowds closer to your age or use a dating site. SwingLifestyles lists 290 matches between the age fo 21 & 27 on within the last month in the Dayton area (w/in 50 miles). Swapper lists 1972. I agree that it is more difficult to find a younger crowd, but they are out there. We've met two couples recently (one was 21 & 23 ,the other was 23 & 30 ) in just the past month but we did it online.

[38and9]

We gotta go along with CuriousinOregon on this one. Since you definitely do have a preference (age-wise), don't depend on the luck of the draw. Accordingly, you have to do some more checking. In Ca, there are "affairs" that have nights or events that are within a certain age groups. Look into those.

And NO, you did not come across snobby! Everybody has preferences.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by ItTakes3

"Caste System" in the Lifestyle Based on Age/Beauty?

I don't want to turn this into another pointless 'Ken and Barbie' thread but lets give the kids a break here.

When we started in our mid/late 20's we had no desire to play with couples we viewed as much older than ourselves. I can't blame a couple in their early 20's not being interested in couples that have more in common with their parents than them. Likewise while I know my share of unattractive 20 somethings, as a rule most people ARE better looking when they are in their early 20's than their early 40's, its natures way. Some things get better with age, but as a rule, looks are not one of those things.

So rather then go into knee jerk, how dare people think about looks in swinging, try to imagine if your first swing club experiance was with people hitting on you who have kids close to your age, and understand how it can be a major turn off.

Personally I think early 20's is too young to swing, and if a couple that young wanted to play with us, I'd want to be get to know them better than the 'average' couple due to all the potential issues.

[Mr. Truelove]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Personally I think early 20's is too young to swing, and if a couple that young wanted to play with us, I'd want to be get to know them better than the 'average' couple due to all the potential issues.

I agree there.

Mr. Truelove

[WesternSwing]

In our area the average seems to be mid-30's, although there are many 20-somethings. In fact a quick search on a site we're on come back with 205 "certified" couples between the ages of 21 and 30 looking for other couples.

Because Mrs. WS is 31 (I'm 41) we tend to meet allot of couples more about her age and younger. I guess I'm lucky in the fact that many say I look closer to my wife's age than my real age.

You're right, there are many that are in their 40's and older, but, if you look around, and get hooked-up with the right parties there are plenty in your age range, too.

Mr. WS

[lovinher]

Heres a rule I just can't break..just can't do it. Nobody younger than my kids!

[flkeyscouple]

Originally Posted by lovinher

Heres a rule I just can't break..just can't do it. Nobody younger than my kids!

I agree with this rule completely!! That being said, my fantasies still have some very young studs in them!! :surrender

Sarah

[richdon03]

Originally Posted by lovinher

Heres a rule I just can't break..just can't do it. Nobody younger than my kids!

I started having kids late (I was 30 when my son was born) so I think I'm pretty safe for quite some time. My wife is 34 and I'm 43. She has an acceptable age range of 25 and up. Mine starts a little lower than that . This is all about doing what (who) you enjoy. Increase your odds. Use personals sites. Not only do you get to pick your liasons, but they are usually a good place to find venues that may work best for you. Swing Lifestyle has been the best site for us to meet younger couples. Our favorite site seems to skew older in our area. Another idea is to look for Yahoo! groups in your area.