age difference with swinging partners

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by foozballnow

I was just curious what some of the maximum age differences were for people in the life style. As in what was the biggest difference in age you have had with a swing partner.

We can't be sure precisely, because sometimes we meet people in parties/clubs and not through profiles, and therefore, their age may not always come up. But roughly, the age range we've been with is late 20's (but seemed a bit older) through early 50's. We are a mid-40's couple.

Originally Posted by foozballnow

Part 2 of the question. What would be the most difference you would allow

No younger than we've been with. We have kids aged 19-24, so the thought of swinging with kids that age creeps both of us out. We have very young men who write us (almost always single guys rather than couples), but I (she) cannot go there. The most recent, this weekend, was a boy only age 19. On the other end, early 50's is probably about the max. To be honest, when it comes to the older end, they need to look good for their age and be fit for us to be attracted. We're into health/fitness and we don't really look our age.

Originally Posted by foozballnow

part 3. any fantasies about age difference

Not really. I was once married to a man 13 years my senior, and in the longrun that didn't do it for me. My husband now is my age, which I prefer the most.

Originally Posted by foozballnow

i for one am 21 and have thought about being with someone in their 40's or 50's but never had the opportunity

I think that many couples my age feel like we do (though not reflected in this thread much). We have kids your age, and that is something many of us just don't want to do. Nothing personal, though!

What is it about being with someone in their 40's-50's that appeals to you the most? Is it their experience?

[rtpi903]

Age is a number, it's the person/people that count and how we all click. My ex hubby is 8 yrs older, ex is 8 yrs younger, current swing partner is 9 yrs older, and I have a lover that is 23 yrs younger. There has to be some chemistry cos sooner or later, you're going to have to talk at some point

Keep smiling Life's too short to not have fun!!!!

[softie]

So age is just a number, eh? Well, every blessed one of you is a kid to me!

Only slightly off topic, I remember once - oh, about 30 years ago - when I went to a private house party on the Pacific coast just below Carmel, CA. I got there late, and a dozen folks were in the hot tub, and throwing all caution to the wind I stripped to my bare self and went plunging in . . . and all conversation suddenly stopped. Well, of course: I left my colostomy bag in place :rollseyes and it freaked every friggin one of them out.

That colostomy is long since gone, but the memory returns as I imagine the effect, here, when I tell you that I'm at . . . the ripened age of 79!

To be sure, I am only good for very soft sex now, and it will be interesting to see if this site helps to connect me with any . . .

For I am going to see, by God, if the willing spirit still has something more to say about it than the weak flesh. Wish me luck, or send your condolences. :surrender

[GoodThingzCum]

we are discounted alot due to husbands age.......but when we meet them in person they are amazed he is 54......so I try NOT to go by ages alone!

Chelle

[nwindianacpl99]

As far as our personal preferances are concerned, we prefer the gentlemen that we meet to be in their mid 20's to late 30's. That seems to be the age range that we feel comfortable with. We tried a couple times with guys that were in there mid to late 40's but ran into issues with more than one of them comparing (wife) to their kids. Yes, we know that it was just a couple of guys that did that but we have not run into that with the age range that we prefer. So that is just our preferance. We both had the fantasy of her being with an older guy but I guess you can say it was just best left at a fantasy.

[ShellyM]

Yeah, age isn't very much of an issue with us. Both members of the couple we played with are in their 40s, and we are both in our 30s.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by ShellyM

Yeah, age isn't very much of an issue with us. Both members of the couple we played with are in their 40s, and we are both in our 30s.

That sounds like us. We don't think of this small age range difference as a real difference. We're in early-mid 40's and we play with 30's through early-mid 50's, which feels like a very comfortable range to us. It's only when it gets much younger (20's and lower) or much older, that it starts to feel uncomfortable for us. About 10 years in either direction doesn't feel like a noticeable age difference to us for swinging.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

That sounds like us. We don't think of this small age range difference as a real difference. We're in early-mid 40's and we play with 30's through early-mid 50's, which feels like a very comfortable range to us. It's only when it gets much younger (20's and lower) or much older, that it starts to feel uncomfortable for us. About 10 years in either direction doesn't feel like a noticeable age difference to us for swinging.

Yeah, we "lump" the 30s and 40s in together basically.....besides, men in their 40s tend to know what and how women prefer things done . I don't prefer swinging with men in their 20s. If the couple is a man in his 30s and lady in her 20s and Jay and I are attracted okay. I just like men around my age to older. But yeah, the lady we played with is in her mid 40s and has some moves I'm already trying to copy lol.

[Tncuple]

We are both in our late 40s, we were recently with a couple that were both 22. I admit that I loved it for a while but after the second time with her I was finished but she was just getting started. My Mrs was well worn out too, the young guy didnt last as long as she is used to but he kept coming back for more. We will probably stay with our own age group after this.
Tncuple

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by Tncuple

We are both in our late 40s, we were recently with a couple that were both 22. I admit that I loved it for a while but after the second time with her I was finished but she was just getting started. My Mrs was well worn out too, the young guy didnt last as long as she is used to but he kept coming back for more. We will probably stay with our own age group after this.
Tncuple

Tncuple, I'm not so sure that's an age thing.

I don't know if we're kind of "out there" or not compared to our peers (40's), but we're both multi-orgasmic. My husband usually comes once when we two make love (occasionally twice), but in swinging, he comes 2-3 times very often, in the course of the evening. I come too many times to count. We both are the kind that keep coming back for more, you could say. We're into lots and lots of positions and...well, we just don't quit. LOL! We know we're probably not for everybody because of this, so we do "warn" people of how we are and what we like in our profiles.

You might find younger people who are quicker and done sooner, and you might also find people your own age and older who are just a couple of Energizer bunnies. You never know.

[michelle101]

Late 20's is the youngest I would go without getting uncomfortable about it. I have neices and nephews in their early to mid 20's. It just doesn't feel right. Also, as I get older, ( I'm 34) I seem to be more attracted to older guys. There is a point when a boy takes on a more grown up/rugged manly look. Before that point , if they still have a baby face. I have no sexual attraction to them. A man in his early 20's, still has a baby face to me. My sister is 10 years older than me, and she says this will change. LOL

As far as older guys go, 50 has been the oldest. It depends on the guy, their attitude and their personnality. I won't say that would be as high as I would consider, because you never know. I guess technically, you could be old enough to be my father, ....but you can't be as old as my father. Wow, that sounds bad.LOL

[prettylady]

I am 34 and Dog is 49. With an age gap like that one of us is usually on the wrong side of the prefered age range.
What I say to younger people about older people, They have mastered talents that you have not even discovered yet.
Older people about younder people. They have something to offer too. May not be talents that you have not seen yet. but maybe a new twist on an old favorit.

Your friend,
Prettylady

[Alura]

Mrs. Alura was 26 and I was 41 when we met but after our first date age was of no importance at all. Who would have thought that she would get seriously ill before I did? It makes age even less important!

Mr. Alura

For MrVan and I when it comes to other couples or singles, I do have a limit as to how much older I will go or how much younger I will go. Our profile has us at the ages of 25-40 that we look at. MrVan loves the thought of being with an older, hot woman, but for me I cannot see myself having sex with someone in their 50's because my parents are at that age and it would just feel very uncomfortable for me.

We also wont go below the 25 age range as we have children of our own and our oldest is 16 so that is getting a little creepy for us.


Maybe as we get older my mindset will change and I will be willing to venture out of that age range for myself, but right now I just cannot bring myself to do it.

Although, if the guy is over 40 and is extremely hot looking and does not look his age, I can play mind games with myself and allow myself to think he is younger than 40

MrsVan

[DBL D]

Although I may fantasize about it I don't think I'd really want to be with a gal too much below 30...or above 60.

Kind of a moot point for me because we are a couple who doesn't go to parties and/or play with just one half of a couple, so it's unlikely that we would ever meet anyone who isn't more our own age or within 10 years of it. Swinging isn't really a totally "free" activity in that sense; you have to live within each others limits. For most of us anyway.

I will say that I am always happy to play with a younger one as it shows me that she's willing to forgo my age and enjoy me as I am.

Nothing wrong at all with playing with your contemporaries though, since we all went through time and saw the same things happen at the same age. Kinda hard to play Beatles music when your partner wasn't even born yet.

Male D