Not in our age range won't take the hint

[JP51]

Bottom line, just tell them...NO, we are not intrested...then BLOCK the darn email and go about your life.

And the guy who thought is daughter was sexy...I had one take me to a club where is daughter was the stripper....now that creeped me out!

[2GirlsGoodBenBa]

Originally Posted by JP51

And the guy who thought is daughter was sexy...I had one take me to a club where is daughter was the stripper....now that creeped me out!

Yes, that is definitely up there in the strange side of things.

[athena2910]

"...Her husband, who is only about 30 really enjoyed having sex with my girlfriend who is 63..."

But I still think there's a strong psychological undercurrent that comes into play when the age differences are SO huge. A friend of mine admits that she likes much older men precisely because she has -- as she puts it -- "father issues."

And there's no way of getting around the fact that a 61 year-old man having sex with a girl barely at voting age brings up some issues for both of you. I'm not saying you can't or didn't enjoy it, but that's not the point.

I remember a certain "Sex and the City" episode in which Samantha, the show's voracious sex nymph beds a man who is at least 20 years her senior. The man was handsome, rich and sophisticated. And she was all for fucking him until he shed his clothes and had to use the restroom. It was the sight of his wrinkled butt that had her grabbing her clothes and running out of the house. The point is, age takes its toll -- and for those people who are very visually stimulated seeing the graphic effects of aging can be very off-putting.

My problem is, even though the male of the couple you played with was willing and enjoyed having sex with a woman more than twice his age, I'm willing to bet (and in fact, would like to know exact figures on this ) that not many 30 year-old men would find a 63 year-old woman an appropriate or appealing sex partner. (Of course, maybe your girlfriend is Sophia Loren look- alike.)

I know what I'm talking about, because I'm younger than you or your girlfriend and I hear men around my age, often expressing a marked distate for women their age! In other words, society has long accepted that men will want to have sex with women much younger than they are but it's not that prevalent for a man to prefer a women old enough to be his mom! (In fact, I can hear the cries of "eeewww" right now.)

Of course, I think it's great if more men are shedding their inhibitions and are willing to give older women a try. I can also speak to that from experience, because my "friend with benefits" is considerably younger than I am. But still, I'm not old enough to have given birth to him!

Athena

[CuriousInOregon]

Originally Posted by 2GirlsGoodBenBa

Yes, that is definitely up there in the strange side of things.

ahhhhhhhhhhh i would about freak if that happened to me

[singleagain]

Originally Posted by athena2910

But I still think there's a strong psychological undercurrent that comes into play when the age differences are SO huge. A friend of mine admits that she likes much older men precisely because she has -- as she puts it -- "father issues."

And there's no way of getting around the fact that a 61 year-old man having sex with a girl barely at voting age brings up some issues for both of you. I'm not saying you can't or didn't enjoy it, but that's not the point...


Athena

Mind you, I don't often have sex with people 40 years younger than me. However, I am more into mental and spiritual maturity than I am physical age. This young couple we were with has it together. I wouldn't want to have sex (or any other social interaction) with immature people. And unless the person(s) involved are all at least 21, I will not participate. Also, generally my girlfriend and I both are turned off by poorly kept bodies, bad hygeine and rudeness. On the other hand if you have a good brain, healty attitude about life and are a little risque and want to enjoy the sexual side of life then we don't care if you are 21 or 101.

[good times]

Originally Posted by athena2910

And there's no way of getting around the fact that a 61 year-old man having sex with a girl barely at voting age brings up some issues for both of you. I'm not saying you can't or didn't enjoy it, but that's not the point.

What issues? What point? I fail to see how two people of legal age who find each other attractive enough to have sex would automatically have issues.

Originally Posted by athena2910

My problem is, even though the male of the couple you played with was willing and enjoyed having sex with a woman more than twice his age, I'm willing to bet (and in fact, would like to know exact figures on this ) that not many 30 year-old men would find a 63 year-old woman an appropriate or appealing sex partner. (Of course, maybe your girlfriend is Sophia Loren look- alike.)

I would gladly take that bet as long as I get to pick the woman. I know a quite a few older women who are much more attractive physically than most of the women in their 20's to 30's that we know. Moreover, due to their additional life experience they are usually much more intellectually stimulating than the younger girls are. Additionally, I would bet that if you polled all the guys under 30 who have had sex with women over 40 they would say they were much more fun in bed than the younger girls, again, because they are more experienced. I have also played with women less than half my age (I am 48) that liked older men for the same reasons. One of my wife’s favorite play partners is 23 years older than her (he is 65). When we first found out his age, we were shocked, as we would have guessed him to be about 50. The fact is that if all are adults then age does not make any difference. Just because you find it objectionable for two people with a large age difference to have sex does not mean it isn't just fine for them. I have no problem with someone having an age limit when looking to hook up with others, but I am offended when they want to impose those criteria on everyone else. Especially when they imply that, just because someone has sex with somebody 20 years older than them they must have mental problems or issues, or it is somehow inappropriate.

[athena2910]

Originally Posted by good times

Additionally, I would bet that if you polled all the guys under 30 who have had sex with women over 40 they would say they were much more fun in bed than the younger girls, again, because they are more experienced. ...I have no problem with someone having an age limit when looking to hook up with others, but I am offended when they want to impose those criteria on everyone else. Especially when they imply that, just because someone has sex with somebody 20 years older than them they must have mental problems or issues, or it is somehow inappropriate.

As to the first point, I'm not talking about an age difference of 10-12 or even 15 years. And I totally understand that many men your age like to bed girls half their age. I've known many of them and most of them acknowledge they prefer younger women. At least in your case, you're open to being with women your own age... and I suppose the same might be said for many on this board.

My problem is, my own experience tells me that most men who prefer younger women won't bed women their own age or older, but maybe this is more prevalent in the vanilla world.

As to the second point, regarding issues, I understand that if two people who are old enough to be parent and child don't mind, then that's their business, but I'm allowed to have an opinion about it based on comments I've heard from people in these relationships. (Of course, I realize you're not necessarily interested in a relationship with one of these much younger women, because you're already committed to your spouse...)

I guess the whole thing is a sore point with me, because I've heard too many men say they wouldn't go to bed with a woman over 45, or 55, or older, so where does that leave women in that age group, especially those of us who are looking for a partner? Demographics tell you that there are far more available women than available men and it gets worse as women get older, because the pool of available men shrinks considerably. Add to that, the number of those men who won't date women in their age group and the pool becomes very tiny indeed. Sigh.

Athena

[Amanda69]

Posted by visaman

It was my understanding that swingers were 50+ years old with bad dental work. Or, at least those are the ones I have seen in magazines. A couple in their 20's are quite rare.

A good primer for swinging would the episode of All In The Family, where Edith and Archie host a couple of swingers in their house.

Sorry hun not even close. I have been swinging since age 35 and the age ranges vary with the club you attend. Some are younger, we have one here in Toronto which is 25-35.

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by athena2910

"..

But I still think there's a strong psychological undercurrent that comes into play when the age differences are SO huge. A friend of mine admits that she likes much older men precisely because she has -- as she puts it -- "father issues."


Athena

I don't agree with this. My best friend is my age - 34, her husband is 56. There are not father issues. He was married to a woman his own age previously, she dated men her own age. They were two people who found out that they had a lot in common, shared similar interests, enjoyed their company and had a sexual attraction. Sure it might be creepy to some, but it doesn't automatically mean that there are issues involved. In fact they have been married 12 years and have two wonderful children.

I have actually played with her husband (and she with mine ) and he is a fun person and a good partner. I have also played with men who are younger than me. Where we are there are lots of younger swingers - in their 20's. In fact I would have to say the average age of swingers here is mid thirties. But there are all age ranges.

Everyone is entitled to their comfort level in ages. There are some older men I will NEVER play with, but there are others I would in a heartbeat...why...sexual attraction I guess. I don't base anything on age, it's all on attraction, physical and psychological.

[Couple_N_Ark]

Originally Posted by athena2910

I know what I'm talking about, .......................it's not that prevalent for a man to prefer a women old enough to be his mom! (In fact, I can hear the cries of "eeewww" right now.)

Athena

I'm not so sure that you do know what you're talking about....My wife Lisa just turned 42, and we get a tremendous amount of propositions from young men. Alot of guys as young as 18 has made contact with us from the various groups we belong too.

To many it's either a big fantasy, or else they look at is as an easy way to "get a piece".

Ever heard the term MILF?

[prettylady]

MILF...
Funny not 2 seconds ago I ranted about being called a MILF
Can't stand that word.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by athena2910

I know what I'm talking about, because I'm younger than you or your girlfriend and I hear men around my age, often expressing a marked distate for women their age! In other words, society has long accepted that men will want to have sex with women much younger than they are but it's not that prevalent for a man to prefer a women old enough to be his mom! (In fact, I can hear the cries of "eeewww" right now.)

My experience has been quite the opposite. I'm a woman in her mid-40's. I'm approached often by younger men. In the vanilla world, even moreso - such as guys at the gym, etc. - even as young as college-aged. My impression is that many young men are attracted to older women. From what I am hearing from men, the attraction involves our experience, sophistication and level of sexual confidence. Most women blossom in the confidence department with age and life experience, and they have a great deal to offer younger men in this department.

Personally, I'm not attracted to younger men (that whole "you could be my son" thing), but I don't mind the attention at all!

[lovinmenages]

what is MILF?

[Mr. Truelove]

Term for "Mother I'd Like to Fuck"

Some people seem to take offense to it. But most of the time I think it's used playfully enough. I call my wife a MILF. She seems to take it as a compliment.

Mr. Truelove