Age you appear to be vs. Age that you are

[The Fuse]

Well, I just turned 40, and changed our Swing Lifestyle profile on the day of my birthday.

I think OttawaCouple had a good point on the first page of this thread. The only way I consider it even halfway acceptable to fudge your age on a profile is to put your fudged age in the part that the searches use, and then post your actual age in the text. That way anyone who bothers to read your profile is only lied to once. But basically it's deceitful, which is a bad way to start off with someone you're swapping your loved one with. Plus, while there ARE some people who do look younger than they are, there are SO many more who just think they do. I get told I do fairly often, and not just by people who are trying to get into my bikini... but I figure they are just flattering me.

I suppose I could post my actual age... 28 in hex (for you non-nerds out there, hex is base 16 as opposed to base 10).

Basically if we met a couple and it turned out they had lied about their ages in order to meet more people, I'd wonder what else they were lying about.

About the reverse question, that's a good point... we've played with some relative youngsters. If they told us they were older than they were, we would have been just as annoyed, but for different reasons.

[athena2910]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

When searching through personals, people usually look for those who fit within a certain age bracket that they think they'd be attracted to. They see an age and other details on a profile long before they see a person's appearance very clearly (most people don't use face pics as main pics). They'd rule out the woman in your example because they know her age and assume things about how she'll look, before actually seeing her. It's a stereotype thing.

If Sharon Stone had a Lifestyle profile showing her true age of 48, a lot of people would pass her by. Their search range never would have even brought her to their attention. They wouldn't know they'd missed the opportunity to meet a woman who looks like THIS: http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/contri...0/photo/600551
Pity - she would have rocked their world.

Tybee, I couldn't agree more. But here's the problem: once people approach 50, it can create a psychological barrier to attraction. Case in point: After Sharon Stone's new movie, "Basic Instinct 2" came out, Jimmie Kimmel (or some other late-night talk-show host) said this: "Sharon Stone's new movie bombed at the box office... I guess no one wants to see a 50-year-old woman uncrossing her legs."

Unfortunately, it's men like him, who automatically think mature women are positively unsexy because they're "old," that can make life difficult for us women as we age. So the only hope most of us have it to look considerably younger... which explains why women, much more than men, are more likely to get plastic surgery...

But, you, on the other hand, blessed with great genes and a strong ethic of taking care of yourself... well, hey, what can I say? You look great! And more power to you!

Athena

[Bottombitch]

I love oldermen...the salt and pepper look is way to sexy

[djjwp]

We post our true ages, we earned those years!!

Whats funny to us is we have 5 kids, the oldest 21 and the youngest 2. When they see me with my oldest son and my youngest daughter, THAT gets a reaction!

I'm 43 and have been told I look 34
She is 41 and looks about 35 when she is dolled out. facelick

[sapphire68]

I'd always give my real age. I'm often told I look about 15 years younger than I am because I am very short, petite and my face looks young. I have young teenagers that flirt with me at times (bah!). So I definitely keep it honest with my age.