Age you appear to be vs. Age that you are

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

When you truly do look much younger than your true age, it comes up continually in general life...When all these experiences point toward a certain age range that they say they thought you were in, it's just logical to conclude that you probably do look that age to people.

OK, I'll give you that. And it's true, there are poeple who due to good genes, clean living, surgical intervention, or whatever, don't look their age. But there are a lot of people who DO look every day of their age and then some, but who choose to believe what their well-meaning friends tell them about their appearance. Because most of us are such flirts to begin with, people in the lifestyle may be more guilty of that than the public at large. One of the basic principles of flirting is to make people feel better about themselves, and by inference, better about being around you. You can't do that without schmoozing them a little bit.

One thing I DO believe is that we each have the ability to cheat the clock by 5 or 10 years. That is, if a person exercises regularly, doesn't smoke or drink to excess and limits their exposure to the sun, they can hit the big "5-0" with the face and body of a 40-45 year old. Or, they can do all that stuff, and hit the big "5-0" with the face and body of a 60 year old, in which case no amount of fluff on their profile is going to make them appear "young" to anybody they meet.

[2jersey]

For people look younger than their biological age, it is appropriate (some would argue) for them to post a false (lower) age. Applying the same logic, people who have not aged gracefully would be expected to post a false age which is higher than the truth. Perhaps there should be a committee of experts who will decide how old everyone really is? Eventually, we can have committees for weight, and sexual orientation, and... This gets mighty confusing after awhile... Embrace reality!

[DGrey]

^ WRT that look younger than they are posting an age younger than they are...speaking for ourselves, we wouldn't. We hate that people don't believe we're 33. We wouldn't want to be associated with a 20 something maturity/mentality rate when we're both in our 30's.

E

[LOL_OMG]

I've been told that I look younger than my age, but I post the correct age...I'm usually happy that I can still remember what year I was born

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by JnCC

One thing I DO believe is that we each have the ability to cheat the clock by 5 or 10 years. That is, if a person exercises regularly, doesn't smoke or drink to excess and limits their exposure to the sun, they can hit the big "5-0" with the face and body of a 40-45 year old.

Works in your 30's too.

We don't smoke, rarely drink, stay out of the sun (I came back from a week in hawaii on the beach without any color), work out.

[EvilMJ]

I think I look about my age, which is fine with me, I'm happy to look 34. I think I will age fine, I hide from the sun like a vampire, I don't smoke and I don't really drink much (horrible results when I try ).

However...my husband, who is 8 years older than me at the ripe age of 42...looks 32...!! The man just doesn't age!! I don't know how he gets away with it honestly.

He was involved in an accident the other day (no one's fault, mechanical failure), when the police arrived, the officer kept asking him if it was really his driver's license. He finally got frustrated and said ofcourse it's mine, why are you asking? The officer said he couldn't believe that was his age, he didn't look old enough . Lucky bugger.

We have no problem posting our ages. He's not obsessed by numbers (nor am I), we don't limit who we play with, we base our decisions on attraction and personality.

[LOL_OMG]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

We have no problem posting our ages. He's not obsessed by numbers (nor am I), we don't limit who we play with, we base our decisions on attraction and personality.

We only limit the minimum age to be older than our kids, heh.
Mrs

[DGrey]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

We only limit the minimum age to be older than our kids, heh.
Mrs

Just as our upper limit is that which nears our parents' ages. Both sets were very young when they started having children.

E

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

We only limit the minimum age to be older than our kids, heh.
Mrs

Since my child is only 5 I think I will aim higher . How about 'in their 20' and up.

[curiousagain]

Originally Posted by JnCC

As a single male, probably not. It's just a sad, but true fact that after 50, invitations slow down for everybody in the lifestyle, especially single males. So IF I were going to put an ad on a swinger website, I'd say I was 49...an age I probably could pass for, if the other person(s) wanted to believe the lie bad enough.

Strangely enough, I DO post my actual age on the vanilla website, in part because I'm at an age which for some reason seems to be very appealing to women in the age range I'm interested in (mid-late 40's). The other reason for that is that there, you're likely to wind up in an ongoing relationship of some sort, and it's hard to maintain a deception when you're doing a lot of other things together. On the adult sites, people are usually just looking for a stunt dick. When it's over, it's over, and you don't have to worry that they're going to find solicitations to join the "AARP" on your kitchen counter. I don't think any of us actually knows how old others guess us to be. If they want to jump our bones, and they're smart, they'll subtract 5-10 years from what they think we are, and tell us that number. Women may like smart men, but it's NOT smart to guess a woman's age exactly.

What I DO pay attention to (and this applied to how we assessed other couples when I was part of a couple, as well as to how I now assess single females), is how well they've maintained themselves physically, and what hobbies and interests they have. I would MUCH rather be with a vital, dynamic 50+ year old, than a 40-year old who's just "wallowing" through life. Therefore, in any profile I write, I'm scrupulously honest about my leisure activities, and I hope that the person I'm responding to has done the same.

Ultimately, they say far more about us than the actual date of our birth.

Sound wisdom.

At the age of 49 I know I am reaching that age where I won't come up on any type of web search. It seems even women in their 40's often limit their search to 49. But therein lies my deliemma. When I am out and about it's the 20 somethings that show interest until I tell them my age, then they usually mutter something about me being as old or older than their Fathers. Sometimes I have time to shout "Is your Mom single and does she look like you?" I've been carded by dates that didn't believe I was old enough to be interested in them. The women I am interested in think I am too young.

Even though the last year has taken it's toll on me, I too tend to stay out of the sun, workout, and either act young or immature, depending on your opinion of it. But, as some have said, a lot of it's in the genes. My Dad was often assumed to be in his 40s when he was nearly 70 and my Mom in her late 60s is usually thought to be in her 50s.

I guess I told you that to tell you this. I always put the correct age on any internet dating or swing site even if that kicks me out of a lot of searches and since I won't open a face pic to anyone until I have "felt them out" so to speak to make sure they aren't a fake (a burnt dog fears fire as they say), it really limits me online. I could put a different age on a site, but that would be a lie and I could lie about my age and bang some 20 something in a bar but that ain't right either. Now, if she knows my age and doesn't care.......... then it's a day that God smiles.

[Spoomonkey]

Sorry - nothing to see here...

Move along

Spoomonkey

[LOL_OMG]

Originally Posted by DGrey

Just as our upper limit is that which nears our parents' ages.

Okay I never thought about that one! Oh cripes, now Imma have to think about that one....

Mrs LOL

[WonderWhat]

Ever since I was 18 I've looked 30. Now that I'm 37, it's an asset.

[KajiKurai]

I'm 36 and she's 38. We're honest about our age in profiles. If we were to find out someone we were considering were lying about their age it would likely be a dealbreaker. Recently I was out with a buddy having a beer and I got carded, but then again I've never given my age too much thought.

[2GirlsGoodBenBa]

We post our actual age because if we were to post the age in which we look most people would stay away from us completely. Often told we look like we're in our teens when dressed down.