Decline in swinging with age - reasons why?

[curiousagain]

I agree, it's not common, but it happens enough that you have to wonder why it does.

Working on your scenario, I think some quit because they give up finding that couple that they have chemistry with. And, there are some that say if you are only swinging with one couple over a long period of time, it's not swinging, it's polyamory.

Just saying there's a lot of reasons people quit at some point and IMHO all of these are some of them.

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by TLO7777

Doesn't matter how many women I've kissed before... there's always something electric about that first kiss with a new person. Same holds true for every subsequent level of intimacy. Undressing, touching, tasting etc.

In my opinion, not being able to access that "thrill" over and over again represents a lack of intimacy skills.

I thought that was why couples were in the lifestyle in the first place...to experience the "thrill" of new or different lovers.

Are you saying that people who swing, do so because they suffer a "lack of intimacy skills?"

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by TLO7777

Keep in mind that this poll only represents the ages of the people that spend time on this forum.

If you look at statistics on age and internet useage you'll find a similar drop-off in the 40+ age group.

You've hit the nail on the head. It certainly would be interesting to see the result of a truely scientific survey. Something like a Kinsey Report, maybe. JoAnn and I have noticed the preponderance of younger people at Web sites. But at the clubs, the 40s crowd seem to predominate. Same for private parties though we see many single women who are fifties and recently divorced.

Michael

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by TLO7777

While I'm sure this can happen in rare cases when the couple truly wasn't very healthy to begin with, I think it's far from the common progression. .....

In my opinion, not being able to access that "thrill" over and over again represents a lack of intimacy skills.

Dante
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YoungMauiCouple at Swing Lifestyle

Dante, thank you for a very thoughtful post. I thought that described our feelings about being in the Lifestyle very well, I related to that.

Thanks!

[TLO7777]

Originally Posted by JnCC

I thought that was why couples were in the lifestyle in the first place...to experience the "thrill" of new or different lovers.

Are you saying that people who swing, do so because they suffer a "lack of intimacy skills?"

Noooooooo... of course not!

I was referring to the earlier theory about people becoming de-sensitized to this thrill even with new lovers and moving on to cheating etc. to find it.

Dante