Aging and Swinging

[lovedoctor]

Let's not forget the wonders of medical science here kiddos!

Levitra and Viagra are great equalizers. Men of age are like classic cars, and if we give them a little boost in their tank, they can run like hot-rods! With a rest time in between (medication can help decrease the relative refractory period, but not the absolute refractory period) your male partners can perform longer, get off more frequently and increase the intensity of their climaxes.

Notice I didn't mention Cialis for older guys? I don't like how long acting it is - just a little more risky in terms of cardiac conditions that can co-exist in the +40 age group, IMHO.

I also think that some women can benefit from these drugs. Ask your doctor for a sample!

[ItTakes3]

I don't think performance is the issue with most older people who frequent this and similar forums; it's the lack of enthusiasm/participation from those in our age group. If there is no interest in recreational sex, all the Viagra in the world will do no good.

The fact remains, most women under 50 run at the sight of men with wrinkles, and that's okay. To be honest, I have no interest in anyone under 50, so they have nothing to fear from this relic. Fortunately, many younger men don't harbor the same dislike for older women, so those like my wife have more opportunities to enjoy an extramarital roll in the hay.

We would just like to meet "normal" people our age on a social level without having to hide our interest in non-traditional sexual activities. Whether that social interface is online or in person is irrelevant. It simply has to do with the comfort of being around the generation with whom you can relate.

[Carol_Danny]

Originally Posted by Betty and Dave

I'm sorry I didn't make the questions clear. Actually, I'm interested in the entire range of issues that surround sex and aging from a swingers' point of view.

First off, we must applaud your attitudes toward sex and age. We can only hope we are still playing and enjoying when we reach your age. We are 45 and 42 respectively, and have been in the Lifestyle for 23 years. Although we aren't as active as we were when we were in our 20's (little thing called life gets in the way), we still enjoy the Lifestyle.

Originally Posted by Betty and Dave

More specifically, do you keep to your own age group when looking for partners, and why?

Our current "age group" is in the 30 to 60 range. Age is more attitude than anything else to us. We have a friend who is 59 that acts younger than some Friends in their 30's. By that, I don't mean in an immature way, he just loves to live life and has an amazingly youthful attitude. So age isn't an important item on our list.

Originally Posted by Betty and Dave

How do you deal with diminished sexual stamina when with couples or partners?

I think as you do get older, you take a much more relaxed attitude toward sex. We enjoy the company of the people we are with, and just take things as they come, with no pressure on any of the parties involved.

Originally Posted by Betty and Dave

Does the lifestyle help maintain sexual vigor?

Sure does! We believe in the old adage "Use it or Lose it" as it applies to sex. If you allow yourself to become complacent or disinterested in sex, you'll just lose than amazing feeling of "horniness" forever. Keep at it, and you can play forever

Danny & Carol