Age

RMLoxly888 · 08-22-2005, 07:24 PM

Well, I have two issues with age. One is, she is 20. I am assuming that most, if not all swinger clubs are going to be 21+? I haven't been to a club ever, so I am just double checking...

The other thing is, I wasn't sure how many twenty-somethings are in the swing-scene. I personally would not be opposed to hooking up with a 30/40 year old, but I think she will be a lot more hesitant when it comes to people much older than herself. Surfing through the sites, I haven't come across too many young couples in the swing scene, and was wondering if the sites are a good representation of what to expect out there in the real swing-world. I am worried about going to a club or a party, and having everyone be in the 40s/50s.

Don't get me wrong, older people are just dandy. But as far as breaking into the scene, I think she'd definitely be more comfortable with people closer to our own age.

Any thoughts at all would be appreciated.

jj5 · 08-22-2005, 07:41 PM

A lot of swingers are in there early 20's and 30's. Me and my girlfriend are. It maybe a little hard to get her in a bar for the next year, but you can find a lot of other ways to get involved. We have found good friends fun to have fun with. Good luck.

Dynamar · 08-22-2005, 09:43 PM

Not sure which sites you are a member of, but the search features on both Swing Lifestyle and especially Swappernet let you set parameters on age. Give that a try, you might be surprised with what you come up with.

ManwithChica · 10-16-2005, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by jj5

A lot of swingers are in there early 20's and 30's. Me and my girlfriend are. It maybe a little hard to get her in a bar for the next year, but you can find a lot of other ways to get involved. We have found good friends fun to have fun with. Good luck.

There are swingers in every age range not just in the 20's or 30's. My hubby and I are 40' and 50's. Always remember that with AGE comes experience. Quality sex is what you would prefer over quantity.

tribbles · 10-16-2005, 09:45 PM

I have found a few clubs/house parties that allow anyone over 18 and trust that you stay away from the alcohol. Just look at every clubs web site in your area and see what you have to choose from.

RnLinohio · 10-17-2005, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ManwithChica

There are swingers in every age range not just in the 20's or 30's. My hubby and I are 40' and 50's. Always remember that with AGE comes experience. Quality sex is what you would prefer over quantity.

I have always said it is not age, it is experience.

wiscpl · 10-17-2005, 06:53 AM

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Originally Posted by RnLinohio

I have always said it is not age, it is experience.

It's possible to have a lot of experience at a young age!

As far as quality goes, I think that happens when all the pieces fall into place. For us that includes certain demographics which allow us to click on different levels. We are in our late 20's and early thirties. While playing with a couple whos say 20 would be fun we may feel like we don't connect because of the differences we may have. Same goes for those in their late 40' early fifties.

Carol_Danny · 10-17-2005, 03:24 PM

We are currently 45/42, but we started in the Lifestyle back when we were 22/19. When we started, we were the youngest couple at our old club, but we never had a problem with that. We did stay with the "younger" crowd back then, which was the late 20's, early 30's crowd.

Danny & Carol

Pepper & Drew · 10-23-2005, 11:08 AM

We're in the "younger" crowd, which in our area is late 20's and 30's, and there's plenty of us around. I think what you see on the websites are a good representation of the ages of people in the scene, so you should be prepared for all age groups. And, for the most part, age is not really an issue unless it is obvious that you are really young (read: immature). Most of the people we meet at socials are about our age, although we don't really know whether they're 26 or 33 or 39. And, you probably won't be able to tell either. I look the same as I did as a senior in high school, and I'm one of those "older" people who is 30.

We've played with people as young as 25 and as old as 50. Taking care of yourself and being a fun person and certainly being good in the sack don't rely on age alone.

Pepper

dragonblade · 10-25-2005, 08:23 PM

You know, I am glad I saw this thread. We too are 24 and 23 and were wondering about younger couples. We aren't adverse to older people, but our limit is late 40s...just because our parents are 50 and that might be weird, but as we're new, who knows! Anyway, I am hoping to find younger people in the area, but you cross your fingers and we'll cross ours for you! Good luck!

Spoomonkey · 10-25-2005, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by dragonblade

You know, I am glad I saw this thread. We too are 24 and 23 and were wondering about younger couples. We aren't adverse to older people, but our limit is late 40s...just because our parents are 50 and that might be weird, but as we're new, who knows! Anyway, I am hoping to find younger people in the area, but you cross your fingers and we'll cross ours for you! Good luck!

We feel the same way - in reverese

Mrs Spoomonkey is 49 (look at her picture and you'll swear I'm lying, but I'm not) and she has a son who is 24, so we have a ever changing rule that we will only play with folks older than that.

I am only 36 (yep - boy toy...) so I am still open to anything legal...

But I won't play with anyone my wife's mom's age...

Spoomonkey

**good times** · 10-25-2005, 09:53 PM

When we first started swinging we didn't really have a rule that we wouldn't play with anyone to far outside our age group but we kind of assumed that to be the case. After a few years though we have found that it really isn't about age. We are 43 and 46 and have now played with others aged 23 to 65 and it was all good. As long as everybody is compatible I don't find age to be as big a deal as I had once thought.

Jamie&Kieth · 10-25-2005, 10:12 PM

Deep breath ... we have had sex with people in their 50's and 40's (we are in our 40's), 30's and 20's ... and yes a husband & wife: he 23, she 19. While we enjoy the enthusiasm of youth, the novelty, I think we prefer the experienced groups.

I started having sex with others when I was 19, generally thinking back the older generation were more gentle and took their time while the younger crowd generally seems to be quick lets get going. Pretty much boils down to comfort level and trust with others.

playmatesinpgh · 10-26-2005, 08:33 AM

We have played with couples ranging in age from 22 to 60.

Generally speaking though, we prefer couples who are in their late 30's to early 50's. We just seem to have more in common with couples in that age range

facelick

**mrs good times** · 10-26-2005, 02:54 PM

The thing about age that I have learned is that I am usually wrong

I have found that the 20 somethings that swing tend to be more mature and the 50+ tend to be very aware of their appearance so I quit trying to guess as I have been pleasantly surprised more than once. I now focus on whether or not we are having fun with the couple and find an attraction. If that all comes together then who cares how old they are (legal of course).

One of my favorite partners is the same age as my dad but I didn't know this until many months later. They have become good friends as well as playmates.

The thing we have learned from our younger playmates is that they have trouble finding couples that will consider them because of their age. Like us, many assume that "the cute young couple" wouldn't be interested in us so they don't even speak with them. Wrong again.

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08-22-2005, 07:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
RMLoxly888 Registered Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 3 Location: USA	Age Well, I have two issues with age. One is, she is 20. I am assuming that most, if not all swinger clubs are going to be 21+? I haven't been to a club ever, so I am just double checking... The other thing is, I wasn't sure how many twenty-somethings are in the swing-scene. I personally would not be opposed to hooking up with a 30/40 year old, but I think she will be a lot more hesitant when it comes to people much older than herself. Surfing through the sites, I haven't come across too many young couples in the swing scene, and was wondering if the sites are a good representation of what to expect out there in the real swing-world. I am worried about going to a club or a party, and having everyone be in the 40s/50s. Don't get me wrong, older people are just dandy. But as far as breaking into the scene, I think she'd definitely be more comfortable with people closer to our own age. Any thoughts at all would be appreciated.

08-22-2005, 07:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
jj5 Registered Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 4 Location: san antonio	Re: Age A lot of swingers are in there early 20's and 30's. Me and my girlfriend are. It maybe a little hard to get her in a bar for the next year, but you can find a lot of other ways to get involved. We have found good friends fun to have fun with. Good luck.

08-22-2005, 09:43 PM	#3 (permalink)
Dynamar Ready-Willing-Able Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 728 Location: A flyover state Status: Single Swing Lifestyle Name:Dynamar	Re: Age Not sure which sites you are a member of, but the search features on both Swing Lifestyle and especially Swappernet let you set parameters on age. Give that a try, you might be surprised with what you come up with. __________________ ~Dynamar

10-16-2005, 09:45 PM	#5 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 889 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: Age I have found a few clubs/house parties that allow anyone over 18 and trust that you stay away from the alcohol. Just look at every clubs web site in your area and see what you have to choose from. __________________ Evel Knievel died of natural causes.

10-17-2005, 03:24 PM	#8 (permalink)
Carol_Danny Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Montreal, QC, CA Status: Couple	Re: Age We are currently 45/42, but we started in the Lifestyle back when we were 22/19. When we started, we were the youngest couple at our old club, but we never had a problem with that. We did stay with the "younger" crowd back then, which was the late 20's, early 30's crowd. Danny & Carol

10-23-2005, 11:08 AM	#9 (permalink)
Pepper & Drew Mmmmm...tasty! Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 1,035 Location: Hurricane Alley Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:alhedonists	Re: Age We're in the "younger" crowd, which in our area is late 20's and 30's, and there's plenty of us around. I think what you see on the websites are a good representation of the ages of people in the scene, so you should be prepared for all age groups. And, for the most part, age is not really an issue unless it is obvious that you are really young (read: immature). Most of the people we meet at socials are about our age, although we don't really know whether they're 26 or 33 or 39. And, you probably won't be able to tell either. I look the same as I did as a senior in high school, and I'm one of those "older" people who is 30. We've played with people as young as 25 and as old as 50. Taking care of yourself and being a fun person and certainly being good in the sack don't rely on age alone. Pepper __________________ "Swinging is a lot like riding a Harley, ...for those who understand, no explanation is necessary; for those who don't, no explanation is possible." --Mr. Alura

10-25-2005, 08:23 PM	#10 (permalink)
dragonblade Swinger lickin good... Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 134 Location: Connecticut Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:Dragonblade81	Re: Age You know, I am glad I saw this thread. We too are 24 and 23 and were wondering about younger couples. We aren't adverse to older people, but our limit is late 40s...just because our parents are 50 and that might be weird, but as we're new, who knows! Anyway, I am hoping to find younger people in the area, but you cross your fingers and we'll cross ours for you! Good luck!

10-25-2005, 09:53 PM	#12 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,634 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Age When we first started swinging we didn't really have a rule that we wouldn't play with anyone to far outside our age group but we kind of assumed that to be the case. After a few years though we have found that it really isn't about age. We are 43 and 46 and have now played with others aged 23 to 65 and it was all good. As long as everybody is compatible I don't find age to be as big a deal as I had once thought. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

10-25-2005, 10:12 PM	#13 (permalink)
Jamie&Kieth Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 209 Location: Massachusetts Status: M.Female	Re: Age Deep breath ... we have had sex with people in their 50's and 40's (we are in our 40's), 30's and 20's ... and yes a husband & wife: he 23, she 19. While we enjoy the enthusiasm of youth, the novelty, I think we prefer the experienced groups. I started having sex with others when I was 19, generally thinking back the older generation were more gentle and took their time while the younger crowd generally seems to be quick lets get going. Pretty much boils down to comfort level and trust with others.

10-26-2005, 08:33 AM	#14 (permalink)
playmatesinpgh Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 136 Location: Pittsburgh, Pa Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:LvrofBBWs	Re: Age We have played with couples ranging in age from 22 to 60. Generally speaking though, we prefer couples who are in their late 30's to early 50's. We just seem to have more in common with couples in that age range facelick

10-26-2005, 02:54 PM	#15 (permalink)
mrs good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,207 Location: Reno, NV Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Age The thing about age that I have learned is that I am usually wrong I have found that the 20 somethings that swing tend to be more mature and the 50+ tend to be very aware of their appearance so I quit trying to guess as I have been pleasantly surprised more than once. I now focus on whether or not we are having fun with the couple and find an attraction. If that all comes together then who cares how old they are (legal of course). One of my favorite partners is the same age as my dad but I didn't know this until many months later. They have become good friends as well as playmates. The thing we have learned from our younger playmates is that they have trouble finding couples that will consider them because of their age. Like us, many assume that "the cute young couple" wouldn't be interested in us so they don't even speak with them. Wrong again. __________________ One's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains it original dimensions.

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