Age Differences

[hotblonde47]

Hubby and I have been somewhat involved in "lifestyles" for almost a year now. We're very happily married and stable, just looking for that addrenalin! Problem we've encountered is that he is 13yrs older than me (approaching 60) although he doesn't look or act it. He's better looking than a ton of men I've seen out there and physically better kept. We both could probably afford to lose 10-15lbs but thats about it. We have found a "playmate" for mfm who is single, wants no romantic ties and is happy with our situation. Trouble is hubby would like to experience something more geared to his satisfaction. We've had one or two experiences with other couples but not very successfully, it's hard to find a 4-way match. Has anyone else had this problem?????

[Spoomonkey]

Finding a 4-way match is tough. We have the same age difference as you guys, though I don't think that is the issue. It is more a matter of dating-multiplied. Just consider how hard it is to find that special someone - then multiply it by three... Granted, you aren't really looking for anything as deep as you would with your significant other, but finding four people that all get along can be tricky.

Do you club or internet?

Spoomonkey

[Elusive BiFem]

If he is approaching 60, that puts you at about 47 and I really don't think that is going to be a major problem for ya'll. It just seems that after about the mid-forties, we all become about the same age. The ages just sort of blend together. I would see the age difference as being of much more significance with someone in their 20's or 30's and a partner in their late 40's, 50's, or 60's. That would be a more difficult bill to fill in terms of everyone having mutual interests, body types, energy levels...all those sorts of things. I'm 55 (almost!) and consider anyone from about 45 - 60 to be in my age range.

Maybe you want to tell us what was unsuccessful about the other experiences. There might be something going on besides the age issue (since it doesn't seem like an issue to me). Lots of good advice to be found here and you might get information to help you. - EBF

[YoungMiCpl313]

There is about 10 years between my boyfriend and I. He will be 31 this year and I just turned 21. Although we have not had any serious age problems, I do see where you are coming from. With our situation, it's more my "young" age. I get the "oh you're just a baby," "Oh, are you sure you even know what you want sexually?" and the "Oh.. you're only 21? I'm sure you can't handle someone my age." And then of course there are the ones that rise to the occasion of having the idea of being with a 21 year old, i think it brings back memories for some! lol.. So i know somewhat of where your age problems are. There is also the problem with my preferences. Although i am a very mature 21 year old, I do know what i do and don't want. And it's hard for me to fathom the idea of being with a 40 year, someone old enough to be my father. We try staying under the 35 yr old age range, but, we never judge a couple solely on their numbers. If I were to find a 40 year old couple I was attracted to, there would be no problem. I ultimately feel swinging is at least 90% about attraction and from that point on, the rest just falls into place.

Okay, sorry, I've done went and babbled! lol. I just wanted to let you know I feel for ya! lol

Take Care!

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by hotblonde47

. . . it's hard to find a 4-way match. Has anyone else had this problem?????

Yes. Mr LM and I have yet to find a couple. If we were ready for MFM, we'd have been swinging long ago, it's much easier to find a "fit" when you're looking for only one person to join you.

Your age shouldn't be a problem as long as couples are open to meeting a sixty year old man with a forty-seven year old wife. If your husband looks younger than his age, include a picture in your profile (presuming you have an ad placed on a swinger site) or at least mention in your profile that he is youthful for his age (you'll have to decide how to best state it) this way people will know more about him.

I do think age can make a difference in couples' selection of partners. Even though my husband is fifty-seven, we have our preferred age range topped at fifty-five. Why? Because I have met very few men over fifty-five who come across as well as my husband--in energy, fitness and looks. I am more attracted to men thirty-five to fifty years of age. I will not eliminate men over fifty-five, it's simply a preference.

LM

P.S. My age is fifty-one.

[hotblonde47]

We have a pic. in the profile that is purely a "lower" physical one. It's pretty good I think. If anyone wants more we are quite willing to forward facials ... we are both confident but for the most part people see the age thing and nothing will sway them from the guidelines they have set. However, we have found that when couples are willing to meet, its not that the other woman has a problem with him, its that I have a problem with the other man. It seems that, on the whole, women are taking care of themselves as they get older..... men are not!

[gsu22]

The last couple I was involved with were both 36.....The 14 years difference really didn't seem to matter at all.....we all clicked very well and I learned a few things from her

[readyat45]

We are the same age 46, and posted age requirements near our "age group" of 10yrs either way! We were surprised to hear from a couple in their late 20's that were interested in our profile. I'd say we all took a chance on a dinner meeting and had a great time one thing lead to another and we ended up in the hot tubs . Everything went so well, that I think we all were amazed .
Of course there are nights we have to put these kids to bed, sweaty and whipped but it is worth every minute we can spend with them! We took the chance and hit upon something special, and I would suggest the same!

[WA_Cple]

We have no problem with people who are older then us. The first couple we were with... the woman was over 50 and the since then we've been with other couples at or around 50. I think I am far more intimidated by couples who are younger then we are!

I also think that older men are incredibly sexy... I have a 'thing' for gray hair!



Mrs WA

[BettyAnnMBSC]

I am 26 -- he is 42. We do sometimes have trouble finding a 4-way match, but it's not due to age differences as much as one might suspect.

[NWARcouple]

We don't think of it as an issue with us when meeting possible playmates, as long as they fit within our minimum and maximum age requirements...

J/H

[TeamSoBe]

The only thing that matters is whether you and the other couple are happy when you are together.

I'm 30 and my wife is a little older. We are seeing a couple where the woman is almost 40 and the guy is almost 60. My wife has no problems with this at all, she likes the guy because he's mature and sophisticated. The woman seems to like me just fine, I'm half the guy's age so there are a few things about me that are definitely in better shape still. He's in better shape overall so I don't think he feels bad about it. Only thing that matters is that we all enjoy each others' company and we all get something gratifying out of being together. Don't just assume right off that a younger couple would not be interested, or that you have to have a totally coordinated age match between everybody for it to work. In our case the age difference is nothing but interesting.

(yes, he's rich)