Dating Older Couples

[niftycpl]

We are a older couple (early 60's) just starting to enjoy the lifestyle. We find it difficult to find couples our age group that are in the lifestyle. We have contacted younger couples (30's & 40's) but find most are not interested in dating older couples. How do you feel about dating older couples?

[biornot]

HI we are new at this.Just got on tonight. We have the same problem because of our age.We find it is easter to get SM so we have more MFM then Couples.If we live in Cal we would look you up.Just whated to let you know you are not the only one with the problem. They are missing out on some good sex with older couples, good luck. biornot

[2New2it]

Finding people our age hasn't been a problem. We have been contacted by dozens of couples in their 50's, 60's and even 70's. The problem is finding 4-way mutual attraction, so we pretty much limit ourselves to MFM threesomes.

[Elusive BiFem]

I'm not quite your age, but rapidly approaching it! Amazing, isn't it, how after all these years, you simply wake up one day and realize, I became part of the older generation. When did that happen? It has some drawbacks, but for the most part, it's a good place to be.

I believe you will find that most couples in their 30's and early to mid 40's really have no interest in older couples, and who can really blame them. Frankly, I have no interests in them, either, in terms of play partners. Too much of a gulf between us in terms of interests, thoughts, experiences, etc. Younger people make great friends, tho'. Help to keep you young at heart. The other thing is that so many in those age groups have parents your age and for many, they just can't feel attracted to someone that they equate with parents. Same holds true for older folks, too, tho'. They just can't muster enthusiasm or attraction to someone the age of their own children.

Another thing that isn't often mentioned, but I believe is at the core of things is that younger people really want same/similar in terms of body types, physical fitness, etc., and there's nothing wrong with that, either. I don't want to be in the position of displaying my little saggy parts and lumps and bumps to someone that hasn't had the opportunity to experience those body changes. Younger people just don't have a fine appreciation for those types of things.

This wasn't your question, but...I think if you would focus your search on people in the 50-60 age group you might find lots of willing and eager partners out there. Birds of a feather tend to flock together although there are occasional exceptions. - EBF

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by Elusive BiFem

I'm not quite your age, but rapidly approaching it! Amazing, isn't it, how after all these years, you simply wake up one day and realize, I became part of the older generation. When did that happen? It has some drawbacks, but for the most part, it's a good place to be.

Another thing that isn't often mentioned, but I believe is at the core of things is that younger people really want same/similar in terms of body types, physical fitness, etc., and there's nothing wrong with that, either.

I woke up and found out that I am not older, but I am much more EXPERIENCED then I was before.

I also see 100's of people each week at the club. Many claim to be younger then I am but something must be wrong because I am in better shape then many of those "young" ones and tend to end up playing a great deal more then they do also.

I would not trade my years of EXPERIENCE for anything they may have.

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

I woke up and found out that I am not older, but I am much more EXPERIENCED then I was before. :

I like it! I'll just use that from now on.

I would not trade my years of EXPERIENCE for anything they may have. :lol

And I completely agree with this statement if only because some of the stuff we all have to live through to get to where we are today, I'd never want to go through again. Once was enough.

- EBF

[TxCouple98]

Well we are half of an older couple i guess..lol....he is early 50's and i am 25. We have wondered if our age diff will be a problem, but don't know if that is true or not because we have not had any experiences yet.

[Elusive BiFem]

I don't know, TxCouple. It might not be as much of a problem as it would be for older people playing with younger or younger with older since ya'll come as a "package." The other thing...it isn't that uncommon to find older men married to much younger women. Or...older women and much younger men. Ya'll might be able to find the perfect partners now that I think about it. After having confused even myself. - EBF

[Joe_Ang]

I have to pipe in on this one! When I first started in this lifestyle, I made it clear to Angie that I was only interested in people around our age or younger. We had a few experiences, nothing that great to speak of. Then we made friends with a couple who's male half I work with. They are closer to their 40's. Angie has always been attracted to more mature guys so things moved along quickly towards intimacy (it didn't hurt that they are kinky too). Heck I had promised myself never to play with someone I worked with to avoid the inherent complications let alone someone I saw as much older. But the sensuality that this woman displayed cleared any distinction in age I may have held. She could be as youthful as she wished, and as sexy as I hoped! More importantly she gave me a new appreciation for maturity! She is probably one of the most intellectual persons I have had the thrill of talking to. She helped me through some insecurities I had outside of the age difference. She was very sensitive to problems I had with anxiety medication at the time, and very comforting during embarrassing times. She had/has the personality that lets you look over any imperfections, but this was not really present as I found her sexy as hell! We have remained great friends to this day, the kind you can go for weeks without talking to and start back together as though it were just yesterday.
This has helped me experience other couples I wouldn't have considered early on. Most recently, in fact, we have met a couple closer to 50 who we have had the time of our lives with! I hate to think what I would have missed out on had I let that initial little hangup hold me back! This lifestyle is so much more about open-mindedness, in varying races, shapes, flavors (kinks), and age discrepencies.

Joe

P.S. Thanks Angel!

[Randalls_angel]

Originally Posted by Joe_Ang

But the sensuality that this woman displayed cleared any distinction in age I may have held. She could be as youthful as she wished, and as sexy as I hoped! More importantly she gave me a new appreciation for maturity! She is probably one of the most intellectual persons I have had the thrill of talking to. She helped me through some insecurities I had outside of the age difference. She was very sensitive to problems I had with anxiety medication at the time, and very comforting during embarrassing times. She had/has the personality that lets you look over any imperfections, but this was not really present as I found her sexy as hell!
Joe

P.S. Thanks Angel!

How does someone respond to this? First I'll say, "You're welcome!" But then I must add my thanks to yours.
I don't think sexuality or sensualness has a whole lot to do with age, race, size or anything else. It has to do with the way you feel inside. Joe and Ang are one of those couples who can make the ugly duckling realize she's truly a swan. They both helped me realize that my negative body image (due to my size at the time--which is a few pounds lighter now!) was what stopped others from seeing me as a sexy person. I didn't FEEL sexy!
I have met some truly sexy people in their 50's and 60's who maybe aren't as firm as they once were, maybe don't have the flexiblity or stamina of someone half their age...but are a hell of a lot more appealing in a sexual manner than others. And, I've met some very beautifully fit, firm young people who have NO sex appeal at all!
Truly sexuality is not about age, it's not about skin tone, it's not about body style...it's about feeling sexy!

I love ya, Unka Joey!!

~angel~

[Elusive BiFem]

Well, all I can say is that if some of ya'll find older women/people sexy and appealing, you won't find me arguing the point.

- EBF (soon to be eligible for the Senior Citizents discount at IHOP on Tuesdays! )

[catherine1962]

My husband has been wanting to try older couples but I'm not so sure for myself. For some reason he is highly attractive to women in their 60's (for sex purposes). We are in our 30's.....I've been thinking about letting him go for it with a him and his elderly friend while I just watch......

[HotCoupleGnS]

The reason why we don't play with older couples? Well, I don't think we would have anything in common. It isn't an unbreakable rule, but we haven't met an older couple yet. We generally look for couples that are in their 20s to 40s. I am 22, hubby is 30. Most older couples are already set in their lives, don't have kids at hom, or their kids are alot older. Our kids are 1 & 3, & we are still figuring our lives out. What I mean by that is that I am school, getting ready to start a career. Hubby already has his career. Although, I am very mature for my age, I just don't know if we would get along with a much older couple. But we are always open to try.

[N&G]

We are an older couple (I am 57) and there is no shortage of older people in the lifestyle, it's just a case of finding them. Eventually if you keep trying you will meet someone who has been in the lifestyle a long time and knows lots of people. I'm sure there are also clubs in your area that have an older crowd so maybe someone here can recommend one. Of course if you are ever in New Jersey....

Greg