Subtle Game That Doesn’t Scream “We Want you”?

[flkeyscouple]

Originally Posted by intuition897

The worst thing you could do is try too hard to make things happen right away.

Dito Intuition is right, and this is a 'mistake' that many have made. We've heard stories from others about how desperate they acted when first starting out. I think your get-together last night seems to have worked out perfectly! Subtle as you wanted, yet setting the stage. Sit back - FANTASIZE while you wait! What a great way to kill time!!

Sarah

[SMB1913]

I’m going to agree with both of you Intuition and Sarah. I think a lot of the excitement comes from my wife and I waiting and talking about what could happen. I was just curious as to whether or not there was something we should do in order to throw a flag up so to speak? Anyway, thanks for the advice, and we will both try to satisfy our desires’ by just fantasizing for now.

[TheSwingerSet]

Your night imo could not have gone better. While you didn't go into the conversation that you had while you were playing, I think it may be safe to say that a few sexual inuendos were tossed out, if that is the case how did they react or were they the ones throwing? If they reacted well then I would go with the same plan next time (that has worked in the past for us) but we like to kick it up some on the second or third "date" we will leave somthing like a porn video out where the other couple will find it, to spark more sexual conversation. If they see the video and don't make any comments on it then they are not ready and if they do then work the conversation in that direction by asking them if they want to watch it etc... Another thing we have done is, Leah will spill her purse "accidently" and her toy or toys will be there in plain view. If they take that wrong you can always act embarressed and wave it off. We also always have a toy catalog around the house we have several friends who sell them and the mrs asking the other mrs if she would like to look at it and get herself something is always a good barometer of how open they are about sex.

Most adults in this day and age are open enuff to not get offended by sexual talk, however talk is cheap so they say, and actions speak much louder. Watch their body language and what comes out of their mouth and you should be able to pick up on any signs that they are intrested.

This reminds me of a couple we met a few years ago, when they were new to swinging. They had some old friends that they thought would make great partners, they invited them over for dinner (much like you have done) and were haveing the same issues. They pushed it as far as they dared, lots of sexual inuendos, a game of truth or dare. In the end nothing came of it even after several more fun but unsatisfying evenings. They let it go as not ever gonna happen. About 6 months later they ran into the same couple at one of our parties, and here the couple they were trying so hard to "feel out" have been swinging for more than 5 years and If they had been more open or forthright it would have happened the first night.

Hope this helps
K

[texasfans2003]

We have a hot tub so we always have that option. However, we have warmed things up by playing strip poker and even strip Sequence. When all the clothes are off, the winner directs the loser to do favors to one of the other players. Also, we have an erotic pair of dice to show them and gauge their interest and/or comfort level. Of course, during the games there is some sort of foot play and then some hand play as everyone becomes more relaxed. I always make direct eye contact and watch body language to read others reactions. Things just seem to progress easily. Although it hasn't always worked out for play it is usually very successful.

I just want everyone to relax and have as much fun as possible. And everyone likes to talk about what they know the best, so I ask others about themselves. Their likes, hobbies, favorite food, color, vacation...it can go anywhere. This makes the conversation less threatening and shows them I/we are genuinely inerested in them as people and not just a fuck session. Once the conversation starts, the tension just disappears. Of course, the Mrs. says I could talk to a post and make a friend. I tell her I am just working on overcoming my shyness....lol