Birthday Party

[PHX_Couple]

It is going to be my wife's birthday in two weeks and I am not sure what to do. I was going to get a male stripper but some of my female friends have talked me out of this. I want to throw a wild, naughty, adult party for her but I am not sure what. Most of the people coming have an idea that we have an open relationship however some are clueless. I could just invite everyone over, have an open bar, and tell everyone to bring swimsuits (we have a pool). But like I said before I really want this to be a wild, naughty, fun and memorable night for her. Any ideas or suggestions are greatly welcome. And if you happen to be in the area maybe you could stop by.....who knows ....Thanks in advance, Brian

[Couple_N_Ark]

Are you and your wife swingers, or have you at least talked about it, and she has agreed to some extra cirricular activities?

If the answer is yes, then you could surprise her with another couple or person, maybe a single male if that is something she enjoys. Maybe a special male that she really liked being with.

If the answer is no, then I wouldn't spring anything on her that might upset her.

And irregardless of the answer I'd never mix swinging fun/friends with vanilla friends in any way.

[PHX_Couple]

Yes we are swingers.....I was just curious if anyone had any other ideas for a wild, naughty, memorable night of fun. There will be some people that we have slept with there, some new friends who don't know about our lifestyle, and a few others that have an idea. Let me know if anyone has any ideas.....Thanks again, Brian

[blinkey]

Originally Posted by PHX_Couple

Yes we are swingers.....I was just curious if anyone had any other ideas for a wild, naughty, memorable night of fun. There will be some people that we have slept with there, some new friends who don't know about our lifestyle, and a few others that have an idea. Let me know if anyone has any ideas.....Thanks again, Brian

Are you sure she's up for a surprise like that? Mixing vanilla with swing friends may be a disaster if you're trying to "keep your dirty little secret" a secret. The vanillas limit what can be done or said, and the swingers may make them uncomfortable. That said, I don't know what anyone here can tell you that you don't already know... or do you need help coming up with party game ideas and that sort of thing? Be careful to make the party be about what she wants, and not just fashioned after what you want! Otherwise it would be *your* birthday party in her name, and you might have an unhappy wife.

[PHX_Couple]

Originally Posted by blinkey

Are you sure she's up for a surprise like that? Mixing vanilla with swing friends may be a disaster if you're trying to "keep your dirty little secret" a secret. The vanillas limit what can be done or said, and the swingers may make them uncomfortable. That said, I don't know what anyone here can tell you that you don't already know... or do you need help coming up with party game ideas and that sort of thing? Be careful to make the party be about what she wants, and not just fashioned after what you want! Otherwise it would be *your* birthday party in her name, and you might have an unhappy wife.

Maybe I am not being understood......As far as our "dirty little secret" it really doesn't bother either of us who knows....we just don't go around announcing it to everyone....if a opportunity arises than we go from there......I am just looking for ideas (games, strippers, etc) for an adult party. I am not looking for one big orgy....now if everyone was ok with that I wouldn't have a problem with that, however I do not want to make anyone uncomfortable. Everyone I am inviting will know that it is going to be an adult party. I have a few ideas and was hoping some of you could help me brainstorm a little more. Thanks again in advance.....Brian

[r_poseidon]

I am kind of in the same boat you are, LOL, so.. please help guys!