Vanilla & Swinging friends...

[dallmax1]

We are hosting a vanilla party this weekend.

Do you invite swinging friends to vanilla parties or do you make sure you keep them seperate?

Have you mixed groups and got burned (someone had too many cocktails, spilled the beans)?

No swingers (that we are aware of) will be at our party; but I wonder what more seasoned swingers do.

Thanks.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by dallmax1

We are hosting a vanilla party this weekend.

Do you invite swinging friends to vanilla parties or do you make sure you keep them seperate?

Have you mixed groups and got burned (someone had too many cocktails, spilled the beans)?

No swingers (that we are aware of) will be at our party; but I wonder what more seasoned swingers do.

Thanks.

It depends on the swingers of course. We have had swinger friends at family functions, but only those we have a TRUE friendship with, not just because of swinging. I don't think casual sex builds a real friendship.

If your only point of interest with a couple is swinging I'd want to keep them out of most vanilla situations if it includes your vanilla friends. Something can be said that might make your friends begin to wonder. Even small talk can make old vanilla friends wonder about these 'new' friends.

[good times]

We have had our swinger friends to parties or camping with our vanilla freinds. As long as they are clear that they must be descrete we do not have a problem with it. We only invite our swinger friends who are good friends not just our casual swinging friends though.

[WesternSwing]

We have swinger friends that are discreet and we have no problem inviting them to vanilla parties. However, we have some that can be not so discreet when they start drinking and we have learned to not invite them unless it is a swinger party, or at least a publically mixed group.

I was flattered that recently some swinger friends asked us to go out with them and some of their other friends, none of which know how we know each other. Discretion has it's rewards.

Mr. WS

[JP51]

Guess you need to decide which ones you can trust to attend. We have invited both at times, only had one regret over the years (one guy who could not keep his mouth shut with comments like - gee I would like to have her etc; they did not get invited back). You sometimes have to manage the hot tub a little closer with a mixed group. Our problem is we have Nudist, Textile, and Swingers friends...now that get to be a chore...but makes for a great Halloween parties that last into the night...but since our textile friends know we are nudist (not swingers) we always make sure everyone knows that clothing optional time starts at 10 or 11 PM, and they all know no clothes in the hot tub ever...even had textile friends strip for the hot tub. Most swingers know it not a play date at these parties, unless they have been invited to stay the night up front. Don't stress it, just make sure they know the ground rules. I have even done seperate invitations to the diffrent groups, kind of anal I know. I have the diffrent groups arrive at diffrent times... my wife is more of a planner than me... with big groups she finds a way to ID the diffrent parties, using a diffrent color name badge, party hat etc... when needed.

[hfire269]

Well for us all of our vanilla friends know that we are swingers so having a mixed party works. If its going to be a large group we do name tags or stickers or something for jsut one group or the other. It seems to work well for us. If one of the swingers is gettign out of control I tell them about and all is good.
Mrs. hfire

[JoeB]

We recently got married (met on SLS) and invited two of our swing couples to the wedding. But as others have said, we knew they could be discrete. In fact, these couples have not met in a swing satuation and did not know who the other was.

[Amanda69]

All depends on the people and the situation. I have been invited to vanilla events, including a wedding and a baby shower put on by swinger friends but have yet to invite any swinger friends to a vanilla event hosted by me.

[prettylady]

I would like to think friends are friends.
I am new here and still very green behind the ears. So don't take any advice I give here. I am simply putting my thoughts down.
I have one set of friends who are swingers. The rest are vanilla.
I like them all very much, so I don't think I would think twice about inviting my swinger friends to any event. One such as a certain marriage that is forthcoming in about 2-2 and a half years. When I am done school.
I hope to have other swinger friends(playmates or not) at this said event.
Have a great day
Your friend,
Prettylady