Worst...icebreaker...ever!!

[JnCC]

Jeezus, just what do YOU guys consider "icebreakers?"

Almost every party I've been to did something to get people warmed up. One of our friends used to have a game of "strip-pool" in their game room. Nobody was FORCED to play. There was no "roll call" taken. If you were there and wanted to fast-forward into the party spirit, you went downstairs and grabbed a cue stick. If you didn't, you could stay upstairs in the kitchen and share recipes with the other too-beautiful-for-you people or whatever. Except, of course, that NOBODY stayed in the kitchen.

Likewise, the clubs. Most engage in some sort of activity to get people, especially newbies and those that don't drink, into the "spirit of things." The rules there regarding sexual touching, etc., are usually the same as at any other lifestyle venue. I've NEVER been to one where nudity or overt sexual behavior was required or expected of any participant.

Obviously, the OP did encounter such an attitude from the club he was attending. They were both wise and well within their rights to decline participation, because the women were being "forced" to act in an overtly sexual manner to somebody not of their choosing. That's not "breaking the ice," that's breaking the RULES.

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Feeling up a lady I'm not attracted to is patronizing to her and absolutely no fun for me.

Could you give us a little more information about this? Exactly what kind of "icebreaker" is it that requires you to "feel up a lady" and who were the hosts who were encouraging it? I'm assuming you and Mrs Spoo left the party immediately and never went back?

Now, if you are desperate and that's what it takes to get your gherkin jerked, by all means... Play on

I don't think of myself as "desparate" but the notion of a "woman I'm not attracted to" passing a piece of yarn down my britches and possibly brushing against my wee-wee in the process isn't as offensive to me as it seems to be to you. If that's the price of being perceived by all women as "touchable" or "safe to flirt with" I'll take it.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by JnCC

I'm assuming you and Mrs Spoo left the party immediately and never went back?

Yup...

Spoomonkey

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Jeezus, just what do YOU guys consider "icebreakers?"

Having never been at a party where "icebreakers" were played or needed, I guess I think of the games that are organized at Hedonism II or III. Those where: you guess your spouse via feeling him/her and others up while blindfolded.....doing body shots where you pour a drink over a girls tits and licking it off.....nekkid twister where the spinner just calls out colors to see what sexy positions he can get the players in. Maybe not what you'd call "icebreakers", but it's what I think of when swinger party games are mentioned. This is why I wouldn't be interested in sending the wrong signal to others I'm not attracted to.

Now if you're just talking strip games without the touching........then you could always count us in

Brett

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by WildMiCouple

I think of the games that are organized at Hedonism II or III. Those where: you guess your spouse via feeling him/her and others up while blindfolded.....doing body shots where you pour a drink over a girls tits and licking it off...

Hedo is different...by the second or third day there, when people are getting into body shots and naked twister, the "ice" has been pretty much "broken," and people are into WFO party mode. By then, most people have overcome their shyness, and what they're doing probably falls under the category of "exhibitionism."

When I think of "Icebreakers" I think of games that may be sexually suggestive, but don't involve actual sexual contact. One club, for example, used to have a dance where everybody changed partners every 60 seconds or so. Another club played a game where a piece of yarn was passed around and through other people. It's hard for me to imagine that someone could be worried about "sending the wrong signals" to one person when basically everybody is playing the game with everybody else.

I know that "Icebreakers" seem lame to people who are experienced in the lifestyle. But what about couples who are on their first or second visit, and may not have actually met anybody yet? We're all a little nervous and afraid the first few times we participate in a new activity, and many people lack the confidence and/or social skills necessary to overcome those fears in the few hours they're at a party. (Which is why Hedo works as well as it does...people have an entire week to get over their shyness and hang-ups)

It's for people who aren't immediately comfortable around strangers that icebreakers are intended. When the older, more experienced couples avoid participation in them, it reinforces the too-popular notion that swingers are "clicqueish" and stuck-up. When "Noobies" don't come back, you all lose.

Originally Posted by WildMiCouple

Now if you're just talking strip games without the touching........then you could always count us in

How about 5 guys sitting in a circle, blindfolded, while the wives worked their way around the circle on bended knees, performing oral sex on each man in turn? The goal was for each man to guess which one of the wives was doing the deed. Only one of the couples (the hosts) had any prior experience in the lifestyle.

Hedo? Swing club? Private party?

NO....It happened at an after-hours Superbowl party hosted by one of the members of the Corvette Club we used to belong to. The one Superbowl party we unfortunately missed.

Apparently, all of the women thought it was a hoot, but one of the husbands (after sobering up) had some real problems with his wife's willing participation in it. They quit the club immediately thereafter and were never seen again.

Obviously, he wasn't the 'Vette type to begin with. He probably traded it for a Porsche...or a MIATA.

[SluttyWife]

OMFG, that sounds just terrible! Like a Spring Break event.
Glad to hear you got out alive.

Every now and then we run into these sort of situations.
And all you can do is chalk it up to a fine evening
of swingers' humour. Think of all the dinner converstation to come!

It would be wonderful if NASCA could give clubs
and party organizers a primer on the "P's and Q's" of
adult party planning.

The most appropriate ice breaker of all IMHO is
the simply introducing people around while noting
things people have in common, even if it is just the fact
that they are all "swingers" and there to get to know each other.

Too funny!

Yours,

Slutty Wife ;-*

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Hedo is different...by the second or third day there, when people are getting into body shots and naked twister, the "ice" has been pretty much "broken," and people are into WFO party mode. By then, most people have overcome their shyness, and what they're doing probably falls under the category of "exhibitionism."

True....but it was what came to mind when I thought of swinger games. Probably because these were the only ones we've participated in (during our trips to Hedo).

Originally Posted by JnCC

When I think of "Icebreakers" I think of games that may be sexually suggestive, but don't involve actual sexual contact. One club, for example, used to have a dance where everybody changed partners every 60 seconds or so. Another club played a game where a piece of yarn was passed around and through other people. It's hard for me to imagine that someone could be worried about "sending the wrong signals" to one person when basically everybody is playing the game with everybody else.

These do sound "harmless" and the string game might go over well at some of the vanilla parties we go to

Originally Posted by JnCC

How about 5 guys sitting in a circle, blindfolded, while the wives worked their way around the circle on bended knees, performing oral sex on each man in turn? The goal was for each man to guess which one of the wives was doing the deed. Only one of the couples (the hosts) had any prior experience in the lifestyle.

Hedo? Swing club? Private party?

NO....It happened at an after-hours Superbowl party hosted by one of the members of the Corvette Club we used to belong to. The one Superbowl party we unfortunately missed.

Doesn't sound like any of the vette get together's we've been to either
Not that we'd mind
In fact, Tammy's usually "startin' trouble" getting the other women to flash with her at our events
Now that I think about it.......she's a real good "icebreaker" herself
We're kinda known as the "wild couple" that likes to party

In fact, JnCC.....we'll be down in your neck of the woods in early June. A get together at B.G. Some pretty country there to cruise around topless in the vette

Brett

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by WildMiCouple

Doesn't sound like any of the vette get together's we've been to either
Not that we'd mind

I don't know about other Corvette clubs, but the one we belonged to sometimes got a little wild. Parking lot burnouts, the occasional titty-flash or girl/girl kiss, and stuff like I described above were not unheard of. One of the single female members was an avowed nudist, another had a threesome with our friends, the couple who hosted the party described in my previous post.

That happened after the club's annual Christmas party. O Holy Night...

I made that little "jab" at Miata because I have a friend who belongs to the local Miata club. She has graciously invited me to join her for rallys and other club events, and I can honestly say they're all really nice people. But nothing ever happens "after" their official events. They just say goodbye to each other in the parking lot, toot their little horns, and drive off. If they "flash" anything, it's more likely to be the "Klingon Salute" than a nice, honest-to-Betsy pair of tits.

In fact, JnCC.....we'll be down in your neck of the woods in early June. A get together at B.G. Some pretty country there to cruise around topless in the vette

I don't know man...a trip to Bowling Green can get kinda expensive! The first time I toured the factory down there, I came right home and ordered one of the damn things. I was down there again 6 weeks later, watching them build it. It's gone now, but I miss it...and that new C6 with the paddle-shift is starting to look like one sweeeeet ride...

[intuition897]

On one trip up to Toronto a while back, we ended up at the same hotel as a 'Vette convention. Our date that night stood us up. If only we had known... Plan B might've turned to Plan C.

[Paphian]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Obviously, he wasn't the 'Vette type to begin with. He probably traded it for a Porsche...or a MIATA.

Either one of which would have done wonders to improve driving trips, if nothing else...

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by intuition897

On one trip up to Toronto a while back, we ended up at the same hotel as a 'Vette convention. Our date that night stood us up. If only we had known... Plan B might've turned to Plan C.

Intuition, if you ever see us at a vette get together.....you'd definately know who Plan C was. For some reason, Tammy always ends up in the middle of the party.....or is it the party always ends up around her

Brett

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by Paphian

Either [a Porsche or a Miata] would have done wonders to improve driving trips, if nothing else...

I'm a little familiar with them both, having owned one of the former in the early 80's. Both are fine cars, for their intended purpose, and I won't make excuses for some of the Corvettes faults, such as maddeningly cheap interior appointments. But I don't think I'd choose either of them for a 4,000 mile, midwest-to-L.A.-and-back trip along Rt. 66 (which I've done) over a "Vette.

The point I was trying to make is that the owners are different. Corvettes are "beer and stripper" enthusiasts (At least they are now. For a while in the early 80's, they seemed to be the favored marque of guys who were more into "disco and gold chains"). Porsche owners tend to be "wine drinkers and cigar afficianados." They're car enthusiasts, for sure, but they always seem to be on the lookout for relative status among their fellow enthusiasts. Miata folks seem to be quirky individualists and generally upbeat people. I won't address the whole "gay thing" with that car, as it's not fair to them, OR the car.

Then there are the Hot-rod types...

Originally Posted by intuition897

On one trip up to Toronto a while back, we ended up at the same hotel as a 'Vette convention. Our date that night stood us up. If only we had known... Plan B might've turned to Plan C.

Darlin', I'm surprised they didn't find you... facelick

Originally Posted by WildMiCouple

Intuition, if you ever see us at a vette get together.....you'd definately know who Plan C was. For some reason, Tammy always ends up in the middle of the party.....or is it the party always ends up around her

I rest my case. You'll quickly come to know who "The Doctors" are at a Porsche Club event, who the "techies" are at a Miata Club event, and who the "Fun Couples" are at a Corvette Club event.

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Darlin', I'm surprised they didn't find you... facelick

[BorisNatasha]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

if I'm not mistaken, monkeys can hold four bottles at once.

Five... you forgot about the prehensile tail. Imagine what else they can do with them.

Boris

[BorisNatasha]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Obviously, he wasn't the 'Vette type to begin with. He probably traded it for a Porsche...or a MIATA.

Sigh... car people.

Where's my "Bikes defy gravity, cars just suck" t-shirt?

Boris

(we are soooo off-topic)

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by BorisNatasha

Five... you forgot about the prehensile tail. Imagine what else they can do with them.

Yeah... Just imagine

Spoomonkey (Doing things even now with his tail that can't be described in a public forum...)