Hosting My first House Party

Dragonswitch · 10-25-2005, 07:48 PM

Last year just before Christmas, we bought a house on nearly five acres of land south of Kansas City, KS. We have no close nieghbors and have talked about throwing a swinger's party. We've attended a few house parties ourselves but have never given one. Any suggestions or tips from those of you who have hosted parties? What was your first house party like? Thanks

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-26-2005, 11:25 AM

For starters, what do you have in mind? Have you ever thrown a vanilla party? That's a good place to start, as the basics are the same, you just need a few extras - like space to play, condoms, lubes, etc.

Dragonswitch · 10-26-2005, 05:26 PM

Oh yes, we've had vanilla parties/bonfires, etc before. Just a keg, BBQ, horsehoes and games for adults and kids to play and it's a done deal. We do have three bedrooms, a large living room and even good floor space in the dining room for extra air mattresses. Condoms and lube would be no problem,,,no hot tub for ice breaker tho,,,so maybe some sexy game ideas would help. And love the recipe ideas I found here in another thread. t-shirt has anyone done games with prizes or giveaways?

curiousduo30 · 10-26-2005, 06:43 PM

We went to one where we played "hide the scrunchy", you know those hair tie backs...

Make it a small "scrunchy" and at the beginning of your party, give the scrunchy to a guest and they will hide it on their person (not in their shoes

and it has to be on them, NOT in them.... :rollseyes )lol

The rest of the guests should try to find the scrunchy, But make sure they all know to be quiet about it when they do find it, cause, there is no time limit to having it....

The person who has the scrunchy at the end of the night, wins...

On a side note:
If you are inviting "newbies" or people who seem uncomfortable around this type of activity, make sure you provide an "out" for them....Maybe a sticker on their shirt or something similar....just so they aren't nervous about it....
Also, as with any other touching, NO means NO....therefore, guests should know that they need to ask before stripping someone down to nothing to find the scrunchy....

If everyone knows the rules and are comfortable with the game itself, I will promise that this is a LOT of fun and it is quite the icebreaker!!!!
Good luck and have fun!!!!!

Dragonswitch · 10-26-2005, 06:48 PM

The scruncy idea sounds like a lot of fun,,,and I also like the idea of the stickers for newbies to give them a "safe" feeling, thanks for your ideas!

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-26-2005, 09:16 PM

I think in general for house parties, the people will make the party. Have the hot tub available, have room to play and provide typical party set-ups (I would suggest making it byob) and let the party happen. Remember sometimes things don't get sexy, it really does just depend on the people - and with that in mind it may be best to make sure that those you invite are people that you are already comfortable with (remember you are bringing them into your home) and hopefully who are comfortable (or will be) with others you are inviting.

SluttyWife · 10-28-2005, 02:46 AM

I agree with Julie....YOUR GUEST LIST is of utmost importance and
can make or break your party.

Slutty Wife ;-*

BodyScape02 · 10-28-2005, 12:22 PM

This is of great interst to me as I am considering a house party... my question is...should I post rules in the house or send them as part of the invitation...

and what should they encompass ( we all know No means NO) I was thinking more on the lines of ... the master bedroom is reserved for my private use and is by invitation only... as I have allot of rather valuable things in there and ... truthfully... I want to be able to play when I want without waiting for my own bedroom...lol)

Should kids rooms be converted or off limits? Will blow-up beds hold up to the process? or deflate ( I have a nice one from the frontgate catalouge... I would hate to see it pop...lol

Dragonswitch · 11-01-2005, 07:51 PM

We've been to house parties were it's an overnighter and everyone brought air mattresses,,,they of course wound up being playgrounds and all held up just fine.

SluttyWife · 11-04-2005, 11:43 PM

The best way we know of keeping people out of certain rooms in the house
is the discreetly closed door. If you're worried about people going past them, (and yes some inevitably might and do) by all means lock them. Well worth the investment and your peace of mind. As for your master bedroom...setting aside play areas
in advance of the party might be the way to go to keep couples out of your private zone? IMHO, I'd keep your company out of your children's rooms.
Obvious reasons for that one.

Good luck with your gathering.

Slutty Wife ;-*

Dragonswitch · 11-09-2005, 05:45 PM

Thanks for all the info and advice,,,I appreciate it all. Now, on to my guest list,,,,,, :rollseyes

WyldeCouple · 11-09-2005, 11:02 PM

All of the above is great advice. We would add however a few things that may help the overall impact. Knowing that not everyone will want to participate with everyone and will be hesitant to come not knowing who will be there you may want to try using a tool like Evites so that everyone will be able to see who is coming. Also you may want to have a "Social Hour" before any playing starts. This way those who dont know one another may get aquainted and make a decision if they want to stay or leave. Hope that helps!!
Best Wishes in you party!

SluttyWife · 11-10-2005, 01:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WyldeCouple

All of the above is great advice. We would add however a few things that may help the overall impact. Knowing that not everyone will want to participate with everyone and will be hesitant to come not knowing who will be there you may want to try using a tool like Evites so that everyone will be able to see who is coming. Also you may want to have a "Social Hour" before any playing starts. This way those who dont know one another may get aquainted and make a decision if they want to stay or leave. Hope that helps!!
Best Wishes in you party!

MySpace.com is even better than Evites.com...
Invitations, bulletins and really great profiles revealing
personality! Your guests can check each other out
with thumbnail previews. Check it out!

http://www.myspace.com

I have a profile there! FUN, FUN, FUN..

Slutty Wife ;-*

SluttyWife · 11-10-2005, 09:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WyldeCouple

Also you may want to have a "Social Hour" before any playing starts. This way those who dont know one another may get aquainted and make a decision if they want to stay or leave. Hope that helps!!
Best Wishes in you party!

Great point! I wonder if it might be best to meet elsewhere (happy hour somewhere?) so people can do their exits more gracefully?
Just got to thinkin' how awkward that might be done at home.
People leaving early might give those who've stayed behind
"rejected swinger's complex"...but if done at a bar..it might all seem innocent.
Everyone knowing that an "after party" might be in the cards.
They can all show up with a "canned excuse" just in case!

Sticky situations...

Slutty Wife ;-*

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10-25-2005, 07:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
Dragonswitch Active Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Kansas Status: couple	Hosting My first House Party Last year just before Christmas, we bought a house on nearly five acres of land south of Kansas City, KS. We have no close nieghbors and have talked about throwing a swinger's party. We've attended a few house parties ourselves but have never given one. Any suggestions or tips from those of you who have hosted parties? What was your first house party like? Thanks

10-26-2005, 11:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,248 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: Hosting My first House Party For starters, what do you have in mind? Have you ever thrown a vanilla party? That's a good place to start, as the basics are the same, you just need a few extras - like space to play, condoms, lubes, etc.

10-26-2005, 05:26 PM	#3 (permalink)
Dragonswitch Active Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Kansas Status: couple	Re: Hosting My first House Party Oh yes, we've had vanilla parties/bonfires, etc before. Just a keg, BBQ, horsehoes and games for adults and kids to play and it's a done deal. We do have three bedrooms, a large living room and even good floor space in the dining room for extra air mattresses. Condoms and lube would be no problem,,,no hot tub for ice breaker tho,,,so maybe some sexy game ideas would help. And love the recipe ideas I found here in another thread. t-shirt has anyone done games with prizes or giveaways?

10-26-2005, 06:43 PM	#4 (permalink)
curiousduo30 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 201 Location: Western NY Status: Couple SLS Name:curiousduo30	Re: Hosting My first House Party We went to one where we played "hide the scrunchy", you know those hair tie backs... Make it a small "scrunchy" and at the beginning of your party, give the scrunchy to a guest and they will hide it on their person (not in their shoes and it has to be on them, NOT in them.... :rollseyes )lol The rest of the guests should try to find the scrunchy, But make sure they all know to be quiet about it when they do find it, cause, there is no time limit to having it.... The person who has the scrunchy at the end of the night, wins... On a side note: If you are inviting "newbies" or people who seem uncomfortable around this type of activity, make sure you provide an "out" for them....Maybe a sticker on their shirt or something similar....just so they aren't nervous about it.... Also, as with any other touching, NO means NO....therefore, guests should know that they need to ask before stripping someone down to nothing to find the scrunchy.... If everyone knows the rules and are comfortable with the game itself, I will promise that this is a LOT of fun and it is quite the icebreaker!!!! Good luck and have fun!!!!! __________________ ~Mrs.Curiousduo30 _____________________________________________ There are no good girls gone wrong, just bad girls found out. ~Mae West

10-26-2005, 06:48 PM	#5 (permalink)
Dragonswitch Active Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Kansas Status: couple	Re: Hosting My first House Party The scruncy idea sounds like a lot of fun,,,and I also like the idea of the stickers for newbies to give them a "safe" feeling, thanks for your ideas!

10-26-2005, 09:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,248 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: Hosting My first House Party I think in general for house parties, the people will make the party. Have the hot tub available, have room to play and provide typical party set-ups (I would suggest making it byob) and let the party happen. Remember sometimes things don't get sexy, it really does just depend on the people - and with that in mind it may be best to make sure that those you invite are people that you are already comfortable with (remember you are bringing them into your home) and hopefully who are comfortable (or will be) with others you are inviting.

10-28-2005, 02:46 AM	#7 (permalink)
SluttyWife Flying solo Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 559 Location: Austin Status: single	Re: Hosting My first House Party I agree with Julie....YOUR GUEST LIST is of utmost importance and can make or break your party. Slutty Wife ;-* __________________ "Too much of a good thing is wonderful!." -- Mae West

10-28-2005, 12:22 PM	#8 (permalink)
BodyScape02 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 556 Location: off the board	Re: Hosting My first House Party This is of great interst to me as I am considering a house party... my question is...should I post rules in the house or send them as part of the invitation... and what should they encompass ( we all know No means NO) I was thinking more on the lines of ... the master bedroom is reserved for my private use and is by invitation only... as I have allot of rather valuable things in there and ... truthfully... I want to be able to play when I want without waiting for my own bedroom...lol) Should kids rooms be converted or off limits? Will blow-up beds hold up to the process? or deflate ( I have a nice one from the frontgate catalouge... I would hate to see it pop...lol

11-01-2005, 07:51 PM	#9 (permalink)
Dragonswitch Active Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Kansas Status: couple	Re: Hosting My first House Party We've been to house parties were it's an overnighter and everyone brought air mattresses,,,they of course wound up being playgrounds and all held up just fine.

11-04-2005, 11:43 PM	#10 (permalink)
SluttyWife Flying solo Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 559 Location: Austin Status: single	Re: Hosting My first House Party The best way we know of keeping people out of certain rooms in the house is the discreetly closed door. If you're worried about people going past them, (and yes some inevitably might and do) by all means lock them. Well worth the investment and your peace of mind. As for your master bedroom...setting aside play areas in advance of the party might be the way to go to keep couples out of your private zone? IMHO, I'd keep your company out of your children's rooms. Obvious reasons for that one. Good luck with your gathering. Slutty Wife ;-* __________________ "Too much of a good thing is wonderful!." -- Mae West

11-09-2005, 05:45 PM	#11 (permalink)
Dragonswitch Active Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Kansas Status: couple	Re: Hosting My first House Party Thanks for all the info and advice,,,I appreciate it all. Now, on to my guest list,,,,,, :rollseyes

11-09-2005, 11:02 PM	#12 (permalink)
WyldeCouple Active Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Texas Gulf Coast Status: Couple	Re: Hosting My first House Party All of the above is great advice. We would add however a few things that may help the overall impact. Knowing that not everyone will want to participate with everyone and will be hesitant to come not knowing who will be there you may want to try using a tool like Evites so that everyone will be able to see who is coming. Also you may want to have a "Social Hour" before any playing starts. This way those who dont know one another may get aquainted and make a decision if they want to stay or leave. Hope that helps!! Best Wishes in you party!

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