Ice Breakers and Games

[JustAskJulie]

Here is a question I received a while back:

"We have been in the lifestyle for about 2.5 years. We have 2 couples whom we party with, separtely though. We are thinking of having a party at our house and inviting those two couples. I have been searching for ideas on
ice breakers(we don't have a hot tub and I don't believe these two couples would be interested in strip poker). I guess we are looking for something a bit on the mature, erotic side and have not found anything. We were just wondering if you have any ideas or can point us in the right direction. Even
some party themes would be a possibility."

Anyone with any thoughts?

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[JudeTx]

We have a game called "Intimate Commands" which can be as tame or wild as you and your friends are willing to let it me. It's a board game with a layout similar to Monopoly, with various "commands" given through the game. The best "commands" are the ones the players get to create themselves! We found it at a Lingerie type store that also has toys and games. Hope this helps.

Originally posted by JustAskJulie:
Here is a question I received a while back:

"We have been in the lifestyle for about 2.5 years. We have 2 couples whom we party with, separtely though. We are thinking of having a party at our house and inviting those two couples. I have been searching for ideas on
ice breakers(we don't have a hot tub and I don't believe these two couples would be interested in strip poker). I guess we are looking for something a bit on the mature, erotic side and have not found anything. We were just wondering if you have any ideas or can point us in the right direction. Even
some party themes would be a possibility."

Anyone with any thoughts?

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[JustAskJulie]

There are actually lots of really great board games out there aimed at couples.. and some at multiple couples. The ones aimed at couples, can be adapted so that more than one couple can play.. you just play as teams...

There are quite a few in the Swingers ToyStore..
http://www.sextoyfun.com/cgibin/conv...tert/game.html

I would suggest to avoid the games with multiple spinners. Based on sexperience.. by the time you finish getting all those spinner to actually land on somethign other than a line.. you can lose the mood. One game on the list above that I have personally tried and would reccomend is "Hearts Are Wild".

Julie

[Dougiemanonamoon]

If you have a house party, have the females blindfolded one at a time. Have all the males stand with their erect penises in a row. Have the female ID her mate by feeling only his erect penis. Loads of laughs!

Good one, Dougie! *LOL*

But, what about for the guys?! Blindfold the guys and have them try to ID their wives by the feel of their BOOBS?! *Thinking....*

Better yet...By their nipples ONLY! With only their mouths/lips/tongues touching & feeling, no hands! YEAH!!!

*Lusty grin...LOL*


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[TxCpl1972]

The Behind Closed Doors Party Game
By
Jack Handy

Items need for this game:
6 3 Dice of 3 different colors
7 3-4 players (maybe more)
8 What ever you like to drink
9 Open mind that is willing to have fun

How to get started
Each person needs to role a die to see who goes first, lowest number goes 1st Lowest role goes first and goes clock wise from there. The group playing the game will have to decide before the game starts what category each of the different colored dies will belong too. Before each role of the dice, you must take a drink for 5 seconds. Role dice at the same time (so no one can say that you planned the numbers that come up). At that time you will have to perform the act the 3 different numbers tell you to do, from the list below (you may add anything you like to the list, this could add more fun to the game). There is no time limit on how long the game will last (that will be up to the members playing the game), but there is one on the time you have to perform the act the numbers tell you to do. You have to start the act with 1 minute of rolling the dice, if you don't then you must drink for 8 seconds, and then perform the act (there is no getting out of the act, must be done). Each act has a minimum time of 1 minute and no less, more if you would like

Die One is for the Person for which the activity will include.
1 Person to Left
2 Person to Right
3 Person Across
4 Persons to L&R
5 Persons toLeft & Across
6 Persons to Right & Across

Die Two is for the Part of the Body to receive the action.
1 Face
2 Neck to Waist
3 Waist to Feet
4 Crotch area only
5 Butt area only
6 Your Choice

Die three is for the action.
1 Kiss
2 Caress
3 Lick
4 Rub & Kiss
5 Fuck
6 Your Choice

[CuriousCouple]

Here's a game I came across recently while surfin the web ... it seems like a perfect ice-breaker to me, and a lot of fun. Of course, we haven't actually tried ANY swinging yet, nor been to a party or a club, so I don't have any idea if this would be good in reality ... but I offer it here for your consideration

*******
This Game has beed designed for a party of two or more couples,
but it can also be played by a single couple of lovers, or by
any number of persons.

The players may expect to lose some or all of their clothes, and
to win a lot of kisses and erotic excitement, fun and joy.

What you need to play The Game:
-------------------------------

A table,
comfortable seats with cushions or pillows,
an empty space for dancing and for performing erotic plays,
a large bed (in the same or another room),
plenty of drinks (but not too much alcohol) and some sweet dessert,
your favorite romantic music (for listening and dancing),
a pleasant and comfortable temperature and atmosphere,
enough time to relax and enjoy (perhaps 2 hours),
and the game materials themselves:
the game board (as sketched below) with the list of rules,
a dice (or a computer programm that generates random numbers
between 1 and 6),
and one marker for each player to be used on the game board
(a coin, a button, a chess figure, or the like).

The General Rules:
------------------

At the start of The Game, every player should wear at least 4 and
at most 6 pieces of clothing. Pairs of things like stockings or shoes
count as one. Accessories like belts, glasses, jewelry... don't count.
If you don't like to show your underwear, feel free to replace it
with something more sexy like a bikini or G-String (which will still
be referred to as pants and bra in the instructions).

All players take their seats around the table (preferably with sexes
alternating and with love couples sitting next to each other) and
put their markers on "The Start".
A female player (usually the one with the largest breast size)
starts throwing the dice, to be followed by the player next to her,
and so on around the table.
Each time a player has thrown the dice, he/she advances his/her
marker by the appropriate number of fields and immediately obeys
the instruction listed for the field he/she has reached. Usually,
this involves performing some action, or moving the marker to
another field and then performing the action listed there.
If not stated otherwise, each action should be completed within
at most 30 seconds.

The Game ends whenever the majority of the players wants to do so,
usually after someone has reached "The Bed".

Each player may choose freely, with whom and how he/she wants
to perform the actions suggested by the instructions of The Game.
However, no player may be forced to anything he/she does not like.
All players must keep The Game pleasant, and avoid any danger of
harrassment, frustration, injury, disease, or pregnancy.

The following rules apply to the two most frequent actions:
kissing, and removing an article of clothing.
All other rules are given in the list of instructions for each field.

Kissing:
--------
Whenever you are told to kiss someone, you may kiss and carress
the other player in any way you like, as long as it is pleasant
for both of you.
However, you should not go too far too soon, and you should respect
the time limit (30 seconds, unless stated otherwise).
Whenever you are being kissed, you are expected to actively
respond with kisses and carresses of your own.

Removing Clothing:
------------------
If not stated otherwise, you are free to choose which article
of clothing you want to remove. Of course, you canot remove
stockings before shoes or pants before trousers.
Remember that pairs of stockings or shoes count as one.
If you are instructed to perform some action naked, take off
your clothes before starting the action, and do not put them
on again after the action.
Unnecessary requests like to remove clothes from a naked person
are just to be ignored.


The Game Board:
---------------

            /---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------\
            |         |         |         |         |         |         |
            |         |         |         |         |         |         |
            |   32    |<  31    |<  30    |<  29    |<  28    |<  27    |
            |         |         |         |         |         |         |
            |    v    |         |         |         |         |         |
            +---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+
            |         |                                       |    ^    |
            |         |                                       |         |
            |   33    |                                       |   26    |
            |         |                                       |         |
            |    v    |                                       |         |
            +---------+         /---------+---------+---------/---------+
            |         |                                       |    ^    |
            |         |         |                             |         |
            |   34    |         |        69 (The Bed)        >|   25    |
            |         |                                       |         |
            |    v    |         |                             |         |
            +---------+         \---------+---------+---------/---------+
            |         |                                       |    ^    |
            |         |                                       |         |
            |   35    |                        ^              |   24    |
            |         |                        ^              |         |
            |    v    |                                       |         |
            +---------+---------+---------+---------+---------/---------+
            |         |         |         |         |         |    ^    |
            |         |         |         |         |         |         |
            |   36   >|   37   >|   38   >|   39   >|   40   >|   23    |
            |         |         |         |         |         |         |
            |         |         |         |         |         |         |
            \---------+---------+---------+---------+---------/---------+
                                                              |    ^    |
                                                              |         |
                                                              |   22    |
                                                              |         |
                                                              |         |
  /---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+
  |         |         |         |         |         |         |    ^    |
  |         |         |         |         |         |         |         |
  |   15   >|   16   >|   17   >|   18   >|   19   >|   20   >|   21    |
  |         |         |         |         |         |         |         |
  |         |         |         |         |         |         |         |
  +---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------/
  |    ^    |
  |         |
  |   14    |
  |         |
  |         |
  +---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------\
  |    ^    |         |         |         |         |         |         |
  |         |         |         |         |         |         |         |
  |   13    |<  12    |<  11    |<  10    |<   9    |<   8    |<   7    |
  |         |         |         |         |         |         |         |
  |         |         |         |         |         |         |         |
  \---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+
                                                              |    ^    |
                                     v         v              |         |
                                     v         v              |    6    |
                                                              |         |
                                                              |         |
  /---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+
  |                   |         |         |         |         |    ^    |
  |                   |         |         |         |         |         |
  |   0 (The Start)  >|    1   >|    2   >|    3   >|    4   >|    5    |
  |                   |         |         |         |         |         |
  |                   |         |         |         |         |         |
  \---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------+---------/

The Instructions for Each Field:
--------------------------------

0 The Start.
----------

1 The Bar:
--------
All players have a drink.

2 Kiss a player of your choice.

3 Remove 1 article of your clothing (but not pants nor bra).

4 Kiss as many players as you like (15 seconds each).

5 Remove 1 article of clothing (except pants or bra)
from a player of your choice.

6 Touch or carress a player of your choice
anywhere between neck and knees.

7 Remove 1 article of your clothing (except pants).

8 Kiss a player of your choice.

9 If you are wearing more than 3 articles of clothing,
then go to 3,
else remove 1 article of clothing (except pants)
from a player of your choice.

10 If you are wearing more than 3 articles of clothing,
then go to 2,
else kiss a player of your choice.

11 If you are wearing more than 3 articles of clothing,
then go to 7,
else share a drink with a player of your choice.

12 You have the choice:
Either go to 8 and win a kiss,
or go to 22 and lose your clothes.

13 You have the choice:
Either go to the beach (go to 14),
or go to the bar (go to 1).

14 The St. Tropez Beach:
---------------------
Remove all your clothing and put on some sort of "swim wear".
(Note that this beach is located in France where bikini tops
are allowed but not required.)
Lie down on the floor (or on some cushions) for 1 minute and
let the sun (or a player of your choice) kiss your skin.

15 The Dance Party:
----------------
For about 3 minutes (or more, if you like), all players are
free to do what they like: drinking, dancing, kissing...

16 Kiss as many players as you like (15 seconds each).

17 Remove 1 article of clothing from a player of your choice.

18 Uncover your breasts (i.e., remove all articles of clothing
that are covering your breasts).

19 Go to 21.

20 Go to 16.

21 If you are female, then play "Mother and Baby".
If you are male, then play "The Swim Champion".

Mother and Baby:
----------------
You are the mother, a player of your choice is your baby
which is crying for food. You uncover your breasts,
and let your baby suck as much of your milk as it likes
(1 minute).

The Swim Champion:
------------------
You are the champion who is preparing for the big event,
a player of your choice is your coach who is helping you.
You take off all your clothes, put on your "swim pants",
and have your legs massaged by your coach.

22 Remove all your clothing except your pants.

23 Tell a player of your choice two reasons why you like him/her.

24 The Upper Floor:
----------------
Kiss and carress a player of your choice
anywhere above his/her navel.

25 If you are completely naked,
then kiss as many players as you like (15 seconds each)
else remove 1 article of your clothing.

26 The Lower Floor:
----------------
Kiss and carress a player of your choice
anywhere below his/her navel.

27 The Heart Beat:
---------------
You have the choice:
Either you choose one player who kisses both your nipples,
or you choose two players who both kiss your nipples
simultaneously (one on either side).

28 If all players are completely naked,
then go to 34,
else remove 1 article of clothing from a player of your
choice.

29 You have the choice:
Go to any field you like (except 39 and 69).

30 All players enjoy "The Dance Party" (same rules as No.15).
---------------

31 The Finnish Sauna Bar:
----------------------
You and a player of yor choice both take off all your clothes
and have a drink.

32 If you are completely naked,
then perform "Dirty Dancing",
else perform "The Strip Tease Show".

Dirty Dancing:
--------------
Perform a newly invented, very erotic sort of dance
with a player of your choice (1 minute).

The Strip Tease Show:
---------------------
You put on as many clothes as possible, stand in front of the
"audience" (all other players) and perform an excitingly erotic
strip tease until you are completely naked. This should take
at least 1 minute, at most 3 minutes.
At the end, the audience decides what you deserve as reward
(applause, kisses, ...).

33 You and a player of your choice, both naked, sensuously kiss
and carress each other.

34 Passionately kiss a player of your choice.

35 If you are completely naked,
then fondle several of the erogenous zones
of a player of your choice,
else remove all your clothing.

36 You have the choice:
Either play "The Hairdresser"
or play "The Massage"

The Hairdresser:
----------------
With your fingers, you comb and brush all the hair of your
client (a player of your choice).

The Massage:
------------
For 2 minutes, you massage the body of your client (a player
of your choice), starting with his/her neck and back, and
continuing as you like.

37 If you are female, then play "The Sweet Candy".
If you are male, then play "The Naughty Little Boy".

The Sweet Candy:
----------------
You cover your naked breasts with something sweet
(honey, jam, chocolate cream, yoghurt or the like)
and have it licked and sucked off by all male players,
until your breasts are completely clean; this should
not take more than 2 minutes.

The Naughty Little Boy:
-----------------------
You have been caught and get your naked bottom smacked
by your mother (a player of your choice), until you promise
to be a good boy and to obey to all her wishes.

38 You have the choice:
Either demonstrate one of your favorite "love positions"
(with a player of your choice),
or tell one of your erotic dreams.

39 If all players are completely naked,
then go to 69 ("The Bed"),
else go to 33 (naked kisses).

40 Perform "The Body Art" with a player of your choice.

The Body Art:
-------------
Gently move your hands over every inch of your partner's
naked body (1 minute).
If your partner has enjoyed it, he/she may thank you
with a passionate kiss (30 seconds).

41 = 23 and so on (40+n = 22+n).

69 The Bed:
--------
Go to bed with one or several players of your choice and
make one of your most pleasant erotic dreams become true.
The official time limit for this bed activity is 2 minutes,
but if your co-players like what you are doing, they may
grant you some more time to achieve your goal.
Remember the rule to avoid any frustration...
The other players wait until you have finished.

The End:
--------
"The Bed" is a good place for deciding whether to continue or
to end The Game. In the latter case, some players may want to
remain in the bed...

70 = 25 and so on (70+n = 24+n).

Note: If minors or virgins are participating in The Game,
you may want to modify or to ignore some of the instructions
for the "advanced" fields 24 through 69.


[This message has been edited by CuriousCouple (edited 12-18-2000).]

hey, this sounds like a great game, we are going to some friends this weekend and will play this.
should be fun!

[MiCpl]

Intimate Details

This game really isn't that great for playing with other couples that you know are into the lifestyle.. but if you have someone that you want to bring the idea up to without coming out and asking them.. this game is great. It starts off pretty slow and it's almost a truth or dare type thing.. it starts off with questions like would you ever consider doing.... or have you ever fantasized about... So you can see how it would be great to play with a couple who you weren't sure about but wanted to find out.

It comes in a tube and the board is rolled up inside. The name is "Intimate Details", we picked it up at our local adult bookstore.

We were with a cpl we were about to swing with but weren't sure how to start so we sat around the kitchen table, got out some cards and everyone had to take off everything below the waist. Then we played a card game everyone knew and played guys vs girls. When the girls won their hand they got send the men under the table and perform oral on their own partners to start..and vice versa if the guys won. After a few hands, we got brave and decided to "swap" under the table and after that we decided we were no longer nervous and all came out from the table and straight to the living room floor!

Recently my wife and I decided to spice up a small gathering with a sexy game of dice. we actually bouth the dice at a local adult shop. You could use a deck of index cards with the same result. There are two dice, one has a part of the body on it such as lips, toes,breast, butt etc., and the other had an action on it such as kiss, massage, lick suck etc. A roll of the dice would decide what you did and to what part of the body you did it. The only thing up to you is who you did it to. We simply went around the room and had that person spin around a few times and whoever they ended up facing was the recipient. Cards could be used with the same things written on them. Be sure to have on of the body part choices as a question mark so the doer can use their imagination.

[ken -N- lea]

we play strip poker with a twist.
each player gets $10.00 in chips to start
when a player losses all of his/her money they sell a piece of clothing for mor chips each piece is worth $5.00.
when a player is out of clothes then they trade favors for more money.
we do this as follows:
kiss 30 seconds $1.00
oral 1 minute $5.00
intercourse 1 minute $10.00
this is a great ice breaker for new friends and newbies as the favors can be with your spouse if they have the money.
we have used this many times with great results lots of conversation with little pressure. its worked so well that we don't go any where without chips and cards.
as a twist you can make up cards with directions on them ie. winner and losser cards that after each hand the winner and loser pick each card has a direction on it, such as :winner get 30 second message from player of your choice. losser remove one piece of clothing.
the cards can be as wild or mild as you want

[Mycouple01]

MY boyfriend and i have played this game useing only paper to write on plus the cards,great fun for as many couples that want to play,anyone have any games

[David]

I attended a party in Dallas, Texas a couple of years ago when the host couple brought out a new ice-breaker. This is what happened!
A huge mattress was brought into the living room. Two girls were selected to wrestle one another. The loser of the match (the girl that was pinned by the other) had to screw the winner's husband. It was great! The second match was really arousing. The girls decided to use baby oil during their match. You should try it sometime.

You remember when you were young playing hide & seek ? This adult game has a bit of twist in it.
First,appoint some one to be blind folded & the rest of the guests are dispersed to hide anyway around the house.After counting 20,the blind fold can come off & seek out one from hiding & bring him/her out to take a piece of their clothing off & be blind folded, while the founder has the chance to go off to hide. The game ends with everyone
eventually all nude.But, the last one with the last piece of clothing to come off is the winner & be awarded with a prize of his/her desire. This game was played in our
party & the winner(she) wants her body smeared all over with honey & iceream. Then the rest of us to lick clean off her.
You'll propabably wondering what happen with someone been found many times & had no more clothes on. The naked one found has to do a task given by the founder e.g. suck on the breast for 30 seconds. Alternatively, pick out of a hat with lots of papers with an instruction written on it.The party can be mild or hot depends on the type of instructions written on them. :p