Breaking the ice?

[lookingfornow]

We know a couple who have been very close friends for a number of years. My wife thinks her husband is very attractive and she has often fantasized about something happening between them. His wife always dresses sexy for our evenings out together. For years our evenings would get spicy (talk and innuendo about sex, but nothing more). On our last visit, we took along a game called Titillation. It is very non-threatening (promising that players need not do anything they are not comfortable doing). Because of the way the game works, everyone participates on almost every roll of the dice. Accordingly, it kept us all engaged and sexual excited. Before long, we were all naked and giving each other messages and sitting on each other's laps. It proved to be a very non-threatening way to start the evening. Of course, a couple drinks didn't hurt either! facelick

[AlanCatherine]

If you bring people home or invite them over, a reasonably interesting method is to suggest a standing "clothes-off-at-the-door" house rule. The ice is broken instantly if they do it and I have found that many people are amused and even relieved by it. Their tension is broken at the doorstep.

In general, don't take too long to make the first move. The longer it goes, the harder it gets to initiate and everyone feels more uncomfortable than sexy. Too much time to doubt is going to be a party killer.

(ref: several swinging experiences with my first wife)

[mark069]

What about having a good porn flick in the dvd player and accidentally hitting the PLAY button at some point.....

[playncouple]

We could always use some new and better ice breakers..... facelick

[kinkykoupleinny]

We have been swinging for about a year now, and have played with about 15 or so couples (yes, we are sluts...lol). At first we had several dates that started ay 9pm and didn't end till 4am, mainly because the initial contact didn't start until 1 am...lol.

Now, we have gotten to a point where we are not really nervous about making the first move. If we are out somewhere with another couple, and looking to take it to a sexual level, Bob will usually initiate contact with the other woman (rubbing the back or arms, etc..) and if she is responsive, Tammy will usually say something to the man, like "You know, it's ok for you to touch me, too."

If we are at home, we usually like to talk a bit, and if we are all getting along, and everyone seems like-minded, we will just ask. "Joe, are you attracted to Tammy?", "Sally, are you attracted to both of us?" If the answers are YES, then we will say "Ok, so now that we know we are all attracted to each other, lets get naked and see what happens!"

The occasional, out of the blue, way too early in a conversation "Hey, ya wanna fuck or what?!?!?" question can be very funny and an interesting ice-breaker as well.

[MichSexyCpl]

shucks, just be open and TRY~! communication is the key!

[blondie77]

Gee....everyone else has given such great replies that I don't know what else I could add! What we do when we're entertaining and things are proceeding a little slow is I usually break out a game. First I'll put on some music, something we could dance to if the occasion called for it. Next I'll suggest cards or dice or a board game. However...each game has to have a sexual twist to it. Like strip poker or naughty dice (where there is an action like lick or suck and the other die has a body part). Or a few times I've grabbed the gal for a little "girl talk" and we'll go into the bedroom or bathroom and I'll start by saying how nervous I am but that we are attracted to them and how do you think we should proceed? That usually works and by the time we join the guys we're both laughing and a little more relaxed. A glass of wine (not too much tho) usually works to loosen everyone up also and some low lights. I agree that it can be nerve wracking having to make the first move...but perhaps a little sex talk can help also......like everyone gets a turn asking a sexually related question and a specific person has to answer......it usually ends up being an adult truth or dare thing.