Breaking the ice?

[Vjklander]

We always have a set of "sexy dice" on hand to use if things don't progress naturally. They are the ones where one die has an action and one has a body part. Give them to one of your dates, and have them toss them. They will have something like KISS NECK. They usually don't make top many rounds

[Salacious]

She can be quite the talker, guess it's nervousness. I usually say "if everyone's still comfortable do we still want to play".

[tazzie_n_truck]

For us, we had a really fun ice breaker, we were with friends of ours who we swing with, but at the time we were not sure what to do to get things started so we decided to play truth or dare, it started out light at first, and get more and more risque as the game went on, till we ended up having alot of fun.

[steelkings]

great question, was wondering my self

[fun_pairTX]

We frequently entertain in our home as the kids are all off on their own now. Somewhere after the second drink or thirty minutes whichever comes first, one of us or our companions will yell "Who is the biggest slut?" The first one nekkid wins! We usually play in a small group of 3-6 couples so no one feels singled out if they are new.

[starryeyes]

The easiest way that we found to break the ice was by starting with a nice shoulder rub. It has been non invasive, we know what we are there for but it gets things rolling nice and easy. After a long week at work, what's better than a good shoulder massage?!?!?

[two4youinswva]

We are fairly new to swinging, but here is how we were "broken in" the first time. Both of the ladies were bi/bi-curious, and, after a little chat time, the friends wife took my wife into the bedroom, and after about 5 or 10 minutes, the guys were "inivited" in. Walking into the bedroom and seeing these fine ladies enjoying each others' company was enough to get things rolling. Ok, well, we didn't jump right in. We watched for a while! Then we jumped right in! What helped us was the other couple was experienced, were totally at ease, and it seems to me that if the ladies are bi/curious, they can get things rolling if left to themselves for a bit. Of course, like the other posts, everyone knew why we were all there in the first place. By the way, that was the best birthday ever!

[SluttyWife]

Originally Posted by couplentulsa

ok everyone! Question?

I hate pushy, handsey people myself.....Hubby usually doesnt have a problem. He just make a joke of "getting busy".....which often leads to puting people on the spot.
Do you guys have some good ice breakers?

Getting "handsy" IS my strategy. But then again I define handsy as holding someone's hand, hugging, looking into their eyes, really listening and rubbing shoulders and patting backs. Could that work for you as well? If someone seems abit uncomfortable with it I usually know just when to stop, but I find people wanting abit more and returning my affections which leaves me in a place to decide whether to try and take it further or not. Many times it's just friendly flirtation but it EFFECTIVELY gets the warm vibes flowing in the group.

You've got to be open and friendly with EVERYBODY to get away with this sort of behaviour of course. Which I do.

Hope I've been of help!



Slutty Wife

[Divemaster]

I remember a game called 4Play4Couples.....it was great.....It was an erotic and sexy way to ease into an evening.

[DXK64114]

We have found that a little separation helps a lot. My wife will put the snacks in the kitchen, but sit in the living room. It is easy for the other guy to follow her there when she goes for snacks. I find things in other rooms to do. When we are alone with the other's spouse, things can get pretty hot pretty fast if that is what they are there for. It is not as easy to start a nice hug and deep kiss if we are all together. Once we get this going, getting things rolling as a group usually happens real fast.

[SluttyWife]

I like that seperate rooms strategy.
Love the idea of having to get someone all warmed up
without all the awkwardness of "being watched"...I'm far more
outgoing than Sir Mike and sometimes I feel like I am the one
setting the tone.

Good one!



;-*

Slutty Wife

[thunder32]

not much sexy women an a good time

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by stoutgatte

I wonder if we don't miss something here. We all managed to get hooked up to a partner at some stage. We all at some stage managed to kiss girls/guys by giving and following the right signals, the rest is easy...

Exactly right! We were just discussing this the other day- and I think it is like 'courting' new date. The best thing to do is do it when it feels right. I think having open lines of communication with your spouse is first, and just making the move. You know what they say:

"Unless your here after what I'm here after, you'll be here after I'm gone!"

Not that I mean to be harsh to anyone... but it is just like sales (which is what I do for a living) " Ya know Mr. Jones, I have the best widget in town! I would just like to know if you think we are fit for your company. If we aren't then I would like to know right now. Either way, we part as friends, but if we are a fit, then lets start celebrating our new relationship!"

Again, no one ever got anywhere without asking for it! facelick

[cheryl/mike]

what about swinging clubs

[HeAndDblD]

The last time we had a woman visit our home for a threesome, we hit that awkward stage. I finally announced I was going to take a shower and began unbuttoning as I walked towards the bathroom. I removed my clothes, turned on the shower and then returned to where they were sitting. I told our guest that we have a very larger shower and invited them to join me. That was all it took and soon we were all soaping each other's bodies and scrubbing backs. That proved to be the most erotic time of a very erotic evening.