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Old 05-25-2004, 05:28 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Default Re: Separate rooms. . .why not?

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Originally Posted by GirlieZ
But then again..if separate rooms are SO wonderful...why aren't more people doing it?
Precisely why we started this thread, to find out why.

Why do we do it? Exploration. Sure we miss watching each other, but there is always the next swing adventure for that. It's fun to connect with someone without all the extra eyes watching you sometimes. You can swing with a person 20 times in a group, but you really don't know what they are like until you play in private. It's also very horny to share details with your spouse when it's over. For us it's all about exploring and being sexual in different ways. This was just one different way.

We don't know how to explain the difference to couples that have only practiced same room. Perhaps it just feels a bit more "comfortable". After all, aren't we mostly familiar with sex as a pair? Would you always want someone to watch you masturbate? Or is it better/different in private? (Not sure if that will help with an understanding).

An inspiration for our thread was our personal experiences. We have separate room swapped with three couples that had never tried it before meeting us. We talked about it and then tried it. They all have since incorporated separate room activities into their swinging (with the right people).

We aren't making judgment here, just proposing a discussion.
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