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Originally Posted by Elusive BiFem So what do others think? If you and your partner have agreed to same room only activity, do you feel you are being pressured if someone insists upon separate rooms? If you've posted in your profile that you will only participate in same-room activity, how would you respond to someone attempting to pressure you into separate rooms? Do you feel you need to occasionally "accommodate" that other couple? Would you go along with that person's desires just to swing with them once or even on a frequent basis? As for the photo issue - do you feel that your need for discretion out-weighs that of others?
Certainly, we can all change our boundaries as we come to know people, but I'm talking in the beginning here. What do you think?
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If I am consistantly forced to go beyond what my good sense tells me, I tend to clam up. I become very un-flexible. I resent that person and eventually I will dislike them...not for their choices but for what they are trying to force me to do.
If you are constantly challenging another person's decisions I look at it as a total lack of respect on the challenger's part, not the one standing by his or her decisions. If a person can not respect another's decisions for what they are...then the disrespecting party has no right in this lifestyle.
When looking for potential playmates--we look for others like us--and we are generally happy with our search.
As for the photo thing--I will not post mine! I have a good life and I choose to protect the innocent by not posting our photos. My hubby is in a high profile job out here in Smallville USA. Other people have no qualms about posting their pictures...which is great! I shouldn't demand that they take their's down, just as they shouldn't demand that I put one up! My discretion is as important as anyone else's and I would not ask them to change for me one iota. I hope that my decision is respected just as much. If not the case..I won't play.
Zgirl