[pairbond]

For us, cheating would be anything that betrays our trust in each other. So anything we do with the other's full knowledge and consent is NOT cheating. We have even played separately a few times, but that was only with full knowledge and permission, such as when one or the other of us was out of town on business travel and the one at home was offered an opportunity to play. We have even given each other permission to take advantage of an irresistable opportunity if one arises, so long as we tell each other about it as soon as possible afterward. So sometimes playing with others might occur BEFORE the other of us knows about it, but to us that's not cheating either since we gave each other full permission to go ahead. It would only be cheating if we played behind each other's backs.