[Alura]

Thanks for the additional information, TK.

Unfortunately, religion is at the base of a lot of guilt feelings. To begin with, we'd suggest y'all visit one of the Christian swingers websites. They have a lot of answers to your problem. The name of the group escapes my memory at the moment, but I'm sure someone on this board will be able to direct you.

Jesus never spoke ill of sex. In fact, many scholars feel his relationship with Mary Magdelene included sex; some even think they had children.

Christianity only began equating sex with sin when Saul of Tarsus entered the picture. A couple of years ago there was a thread on this board in which a member, Quin, a history major, posted at length on his life and personality. Saul, later called Paul and eventually St. Paul, was the first of the Christian zealots. He was so obsessed with the second coming of the Christ, which he felt was imminent, that he urged his followers to think only of that and not waste time on mundane things like sex. He was also something of a misogynist, considering women, at best, unclean. He wrote in one of his epistles, "It is better that a man not touch a woman."

When Constantine moved the seat of the Roman Empire to Constantinople, established Christianity as the state religion, and ordered that the Bible be compiled, a lot of Saul's writings were included. That changed the focus of Christianity away from Jesus' teachings of love and peace to Saul's teachings of hellfire and brimstone.

There is no reason for a follower of Christ's teachings to feel guilty about sex or swinging. Don't ask yourself, "What would St. Paul do?"

Alura