Thanks to all for the sage advice. We pretty much do everything said above, but wanted input from others. Sort of...yeah, we are in the right ballpark. One post above sort of says "deal with it" . Sounds nice, we are working on it, but 40 plus years of indoctrination does not go away overnight. Bear with us. One question was where are we, and what religion. We are almost dead center US, North of Kansas City, south of Omaha. Yep, right in Bible beating country. Religion....Baptist, ........ not only Baptist, but Southern Baptist. If you might guess, we are sorta lapsed a bit. (maybe a lot, given being here )LOL To likeminds, emails like yours will probably go a lot further for reassurance and peace of mind than anything I could say to her.
In theory, she is all for this, but in practice, Ahh that is the problem. If you every find that elusive "guilt be gone", we will be your first customer! To anyone else concerned, this is good therapy for both of us, discussing these ideas here. It opens new horizons and lets us know we are not alone in these thoughts or feelings. It is just we are getting started a lot later than most of you.
Some may note a lot of LOL notes from me. Yes, I do laugh a lot at myself. In general, we have a lot of humor. Some contrived, some good, a lot bad (WE both like puns.... forgive us), and some just a bit skewed, at least accoring to friends. BUT.....it has taken us through a lot most marriages would not survive!! 27 years worth. As a note, discussing swinging is a very minor problem between us, concerning other things we have already made it through. Thanks to all, please post more thoughts. TK
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