I can relate to this...When we first got into this i was real worried. I took my wedding vowes very seriously and it was hard over coming that one statement of keeping only unto my hubby. We did alot of talking and decided that we really werent going against it since we were both gonna be there and there was no cheating there. We dont really look at sex as a way of exspressing our love for each other but more as a sport which we both really enjoy. I have to say that since we have started playing our sex life as gotten more often and more intense and we both feel alot closer to each other...although we were very close to start with. As for "sex is bad" heard that one a million times!! But if ya think about it EVERYTHING is bad...lol So my advice is to talk talk talk and when you are done talk somemore. To us sex is just something we do that has nothing to do with our love for each other...We show each other in many many other ways how much we love each other although it does include sex, it is soooooo much more.
good luck..my 2 cents for the day!
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