 Feelings of guilt due to religious upbringing
OK sports fans...... another lengthy post. LOL I have been reading other posts for about 3 hours, and have several questions. One lengthy thread about guilt danced all around my question, but did not help.
We have been taught that premarital sex is bad, sex between singles is bad, between ANYONE but your marriage partner is bad. Heck, sex itself is bad. Sex with yourself???? OOOHHHH, really bad. So what am I doing on a swingers site? Trying to find out if if is for us.
Since youth, (a long time ago, LOL) we have been taught sex is a bad thing outside marriage, and DO NOT ENJOY it when you do it. So, how do we get over this indoctrination? Jealousy can be a part of this, but not in this question. Please, no sermons on jealousy here. I just want to know how others overcame this indoctrination. IN my case, (husband), I can overcome it better, but my wife has a REAL problem overcoming the "anticipated???"guilt. We have not started anything yet, we are waiting for "the right moment", so your advice is anticipated. I have several other posts on other topics, so please do not confuse them with this question. There are also several other "guilt trip" problems my wife has, and they will be addressed later in other posts. Thank you, TK
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