head bang Now realizing this, I can see why I nearly destroyed my own. I had confused the two terms, thinking that swinging meant seeing other people without the other spouse present. Of course, I was looking at the swingers boards, and could not understand why no one wanted a single guy, and felt hurt that my wife was getting all the play. I realize now what OUR mistakes were.
Communication-a lack of it.
Jealousy-which will not go away.
Misrepresentation-on both our parts.
And to top it all off, a messed up definition.
Thankfully we are working on it, but it was bad for a while.
So thanks for the proper definition, I will chalk all of it up to a learning experience.