pacouple4u

Thank you! Given any type of "scenario," for us, the best path is to be direct. We're not giving each other sales pitches, we're exploring variations of sexuality together... It makes logical sense to us to approach any situation with the idea that both of us have the intelligence to make good decisions based on the (same) facts laid before each of us "on the table," as opposed to some of those facts remaining "under" the table in order to make a more palatable presentation. Our experience(s) have shown us that where plain old simple chemistry exists ("hitting it off well"), there is no need for PR work. When the energy is good with another couple, things just flow nicely and there's no need for anyone to feel compelled to "lead" anyone "gently" or otherwise! Regarding the question of whether it is considered cheating to be in this forum without your partner's knowledge, I feel that in order for this to have a truly "therapeutic" effect on a troubled relationship, one would need to share his/her input with his/her partner. Keeping things strong works better when you share your thoughts/feelings (good, bad, indifferent) with your parnter - whether it's easy or not!