You made some excellent points, pacouple4u (and others have too), but a question...
Flying under the radar...I understand...but sometimes people might want to "investigate" an area...gather information...before introducing their spouse to something. Maybe to find out exactly HOW to introduce their spouse. Maybe to find out if they think their spouse MIGHT be interested.
When I asked this question originally, I was not referring specifically to swinging; however, since this is a swingers board, most answers have come from that perspective. With that, I wonder how many spouses...without being "gently" led to the idea of swinging, would have vetoed the suggestion of even investigation of the subject? As in
"Have you lost your freaking mind?!?"
Maybe...just maybe...by being here without the knowledge of the spouse...gathering information...some have been able to learn things about themselves, how to approach their spouse, if they should make the approach at all...and maybe some have even discovered it just isn't a place for them.
So, given that type of scenario...is it still cheating to be here without the knowledge of the spouse?
- EBF
