Every inidividual and couple has the absolute right to determine which "rules" maintain their comfort level(s) when it comes to the issue of cheating. I feel that it's not okay to "venture" anywhere without "dragging" my partner into it without his/her knowledge and expressed consent. I agree with the likening of this concept to sort of flying "under the radar" of my partner, and that seems awfully close to to being devious in my book. That being said, if one's partner approves of such things and it works for you, then that's your business and nobody else's! My questions are: 1)Do they know before you act and 2)Do you act w/out their knowledge because you think they'd be annoyed, hurt, etc. and 3)What's more important in the long run - nurturing and maintaining that strong foundation (simplistic as that may sound!) by not doing things that could even possibly give your partner cause to doubt you? Please don't misunderstand me - if this works for you, that's wonderful. Straightforward, out-in-the-open direct and simple honest 2-way communication is what works for us and that means we do things with each other's knowledge - and that has worked for us through all of life's storms so far. Life throws enough curves our way; we see no reason to complicate things when it's easily avoidable. To each his/her own!
