flassh,
Structure is what defines the substance of the relationship. What others see is secondary. If how others see you affects the structure, then the relationship is suspect.
"Of course, for some here on this site, a storm can be devastating because they do not hold any values or mores in common with their SO. Is this a true statement. Please let me know if this is true for you? I think it is true for me and I do venture into some areas of interest that test my values and mores and as quircky as this sounds, I simply like to explore and read and get feedback without dragging my spouse into such worlds. I get to see and hear some things that may challenge my devotion if only for a moment but I constantly am reminded of how much I care and love my better half. "
I may be misunderstanding you, but with repect, unless you're only referring to thinking process and discourse, your comments reads like rationalization for doing things under your SO's radar.
J&B
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