mostly well said, pacouple4u.
Question back though: does not "structurally" imply the part that can be seen by others? Or, did you mean the hidden "foundation" of your relationship. In your building analogy, I would suggest that your individual values and mores mesh together to form a greater foundation and the end product is a structure, when viewed by others, is solid and immoveable by a storm. Of course, for some here on this site, a storm can be devastating because they do not hold any values or mores in common with their SO. Is this a true statement. Please let me know if this is true for you? I think it is true for me and I do venture into some areas of interest that test my values and mores and as quircky as this sounds, I simply like to explore and read and get feedback without dragging my spouse into such worlds. I get to see and hear some things that may challenge my devotion if only for a moment but I constantly am reminded of how much I care and love my better half. I share the gems that I uncover here and elsewhere as we may need them in our lives. Thus, we are getting feedback even though I don't tell her every last thing I say or read here. I will repeat the words I used previously, if someone is so dark to deceive their partner, one must take this deceit to heart and confront it and kill it or remove it. Sooner than later.
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