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Chris&Amelia · 07-17-2002, 03:26 AM

Hi! I was wondering if everybody can help me and my wife settle a bet!

First, some history... before we got married, we used condoms for birth control. Ever since we got married, she went on the pill. Now that she's on the pill, we go bareback, but when we play with other couples, latex is the rule. (At least until we find a couple we exceptionally trust with our lives, because that's the risk you take with unprotected sex.)

One day, we got into a discussion with the entire condom vs. no condom issue, and why people (in general) would rather not use a barrier form of birth control. I contend that there are also instinctive issues at work here, but she believes that it's strictly about pleasure.

My argument is that, all things being equal (no fear of pregnancy, disease, etc.) one of the reasons both men and women would rather have intercourse au natural is because, biologically speaking, the entire point behind sexual intercourse is to induce pregnancy and reproduce. As such, in the back of every couple's mind (barring same-sex partners, of course) is the instinctive drive for the man to deposit his sperm into the woman's vagina in order to produce offspring. And a woman has the same instinctive urge to receive the man's sperm inside of her, with the hope of becoming pregnant. When a couple is using a barrier form of birth control, such as condoms, the same satisfaction just isn't there, as the entire point (biologically speaking) for intercourse is for the man to ejaculate his semen deep into his partner's vagina, and subconsciously they know that his sperm is ending up into a little latex reservoir tip.

I believe this to be true even if the couple does not want children, as this is a "hard-wired" instinctive urge.

My wife, on the other hand, tells me that this is hogwash. The only reason that couples go bareback is because of the greater pleasure felt by both parties, and the more intimate bonding effect of intercourse without condoms. There is no doubt that the both of us prefers the bare "skin-on-skin" sensation of natural sexual intercourse, and Amelia swears that she enjoys the sensation of my semen flowing into her when I ejaculate.

As such, this poll with have two questions:

1) Do you believe that the urge to not use a barrier method of birth control is because of Instinct, or Pleasure?

2) All things being the same (no fear of pregnancy, disease, etc.), do you prefer intercourse with, or without, a barrier method of birth control?

Thanks!

07-17-2002, 03:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,441 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A SLS Name:PA_Panache	Reproduction vs. Pleasure Hi! I was wondering if everybody can help me and my wife settle a bet! First, some history... before we got married, we used condoms for birth control. Ever since we got married, she went on the pill. Now that she's on the pill, we go bareback, but when we play with other couples, latex is the rule. (At least until we find a couple we exceptionally trust with our lives, because that's the risk you take with unprotected sex.) One day, we got into a discussion with the entire condom vs. no condom issue, and why people (in general) would rather not use a barrier form of birth control. I contend that there are also instinctive issues at work here, but she believes that it's strictly about pleasure. My argument is that, all things being equal (no fear of pregnancy, disease, etc.) one of the reasons both men and women would rather have intercourse au natural is because, biologically speaking, the entire point behind sexual intercourse is to induce pregnancy and reproduce. As such, in the back of every couple's mind (barring same-sex partners, of course) is the instinctive drive for the man to deposit his sperm into the woman's vagina in order to produce offspring. And a woman has the same instinctive urge to receive the man's sperm inside of her, with the hope of becoming pregnant. When a couple is using a barrier form of birth control, such as condoms, the same satisfaction just isn't there, as the entire point (biologically speaking) for intercourse is for the man to ejaculate his semen deep into his partner's vagina, and subconsciously they know that his sperm is ending up into a little latex reservoir tip. I believe this to be true even if the couple does not want children, as this is a "hard-wired" instinctive urge. My wife, on the other hand, tells me that this is hogwash. The only reason that couples go bareback is because of the greater pleasure felt by both parties, and the more intimate bonding effect of intercourse without condoms. There is no doubt that the both of us prefers the bare "skin-on-skin" sensation of natural sexual intercourse, and Amelia swears that she enjoys the sensation of my semen flowing into her when I ejaculate. As such, this poll with have two questions: 1) Do you believe that the urge to not use a barrier method of birth control is because of Instinct, or Pleasure? 2) All things being the same (no fear of pregnancy, disease, etc.), do you prefer intercourse with, or without, a barrier method of birth control? Thanks! __________________ "May God be with you."