We just figure friends are friends. We don't even have to ask our swinger friends to be discrete at our parties. We have two parties a year where all our firends are invited, including children. In fact, our kids make up their own invitation list of their friends and their parents. Sixty to seventy people attend.
The only time we've come close to a problem:
Mary: (vanilla friend) "How do y'all happen to know each other?"
Jane: (Playmate) "Our husbands met somewhere..."
Mrs. Alura: (quickly) "They met in a bookstore." (Actually true, an adult book store where we were both checking out the Swingers Bulletin Board.)
Jane: "Oh, right! I remember... They were both looking for something for their wives..." (Actually true, another man to fuck her.)
Mrs. Alura: "They compared ideas and we've been friends since."
Although the ladies were proud of themselves for keeping a straight face throughout that conversation, we've had a lot of laughs about that exchange since.
Mr. Alura