We would never ever judge anyone according to income level, house size etc. Its all about personality and attitude to us. I cant ever recall a time where we have asked anyone how much money they make, how big their house is etc.
Either we like someone well enuff to party with them, and would trust their judgement on the other people that they have chosen to invite to their party and we would accept the invite, or we would politely decline if something with their personality didnt click right with us.
As for the reason why so many declined their invite.. perhaps a few that had been invited happened to live a substantial distance away and did ask about sleeping arrangements. and even tho there was ample room, maybe the drive etc just didnt happen to fit into their personal schedules that weekend.
You have said in a post that this couple is fairly new to the lifestyle and this was their first attempt at hosting a house party. After being in the lifestyle for awhile and helping other friends plan house parties plus hosting our share of parties too we have found that it takes real effort to get the number of people you are aiming for at a party. Some people simply have other plans and politely tell you so, and quite a few people (unfortunately) rsvp to say they will be attending and then do the no show thing. We have found that once you figure out how many people that you want at your party, its always a good thing to invite TWICE AS MANY....then if you are lucky you will end up with the number you were looking for
Laura