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Originally posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty
Since no two couples dynamics are the same everyone has different ideas on what constitutes cheating. If you go outside the boundaries set in your paticular relationship then you are a cheater. |
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a couple's bottom line on acceptable behaviour and activities for each other and their relationship as a whole regarding sex or the potential thereof.
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EBF I tend to agree with you personally, on many points. But, they can only be as they would relate to my relationship with my spouse. As the two statements above point out, everyone must consider their own relationship. Who are we to judge others not knowing their circumstances?
Personally, I see no more harm in veiwing a web site of this nature, than veiwing a Penthouse or other type magazine. This is just me, because I know and trust my spouse completely. We share pertinent information with each other daily. I say pertinent, meaning if we feel it affects our relationship, or that it is something the other needs(will need) to know. This is a decision that we have to make concerning each other. Pertinent information includes anything from kid problems to who we talked to on the IM, and finances...etc. Nothing is ever held back, so there are never any surprises.
If anyone is veiwing this site without their partner's knowlege, and it is not leading to extramarital affairs, but giving them support and knowledge to take to their partner I see no harm what so ever in it. Many people discuss the possibility of swinging, but don't go any further because one or the other is timid or shy.
Sometimes it takes the other partner to take the first step!
Taking the first step is sometimes a frightening thing to do. They want to proceed slowly, as to not scare their spouse. They also want to gather as much information as possible before broaching the subject again. Gain some insight as to what they are talking about, before they bring their partner onto the site. At least I would hope that is their ultimate goal. Share the knowledge, then the dream!
mrs hmr
