No, I don't think that any man or woman that comes here with openness and honesty is cheating in any way. I believe I said that in so many words ealier when I mentioned having a "my place" sort of place. Further, I think that by being here and participating, many people have probably saved themselves and their spouses some significant grief in the long run as they have come to learn, as you mentioned Buck, that the worst thing in the world is to try to push a spouse into swinging if they don't want to go there. There are no real rules for swinging, and it really helps to be able to dialogue with others on the subject. Me thinks! You and others have had golden opportunities to see how hurtful swinging (or pushing the subject) could be to ones spouse. Isn't that a valuable lesson in and of itself?
Also, you and others (Sexhounddog comes to mind) have shared your learned knowledge with other men asking the same questions you all asked when new members. That probably carries more weight, coming from ya'll, than it would from many of us. And I'm certainly not saying this applies to you, but it wouldn't suprise me to learn that living somewhat vicariously through this board has prevented some cheating or the thought of it. Again, I believe we all have thoughts and things that we don't necessarily share with our SO's and as we've seen, people define cheating individually.
Which takes me back to what wrnakedru said...each couple has to define it for themselves.
- EBF
