OK. I am one of those persons who participates on this board without my spouse's knowledge. I came across the board by accident and found it to be interesting. I started a couple of threads early on asking for advice as to how to understand my feelings and my relationship with my spouse. Numerous kind people responded and what I learned mainly was to respect my wife's opinions and don't push her into anything which I haven't done. I also have not tried to "pick up" anyone on this board or anything like that, but I have developed a dialogue with a person or two which have been very helpful and cordial. It's sort of like confiding in a good friend. Is that cheating? How can it be bad when it has actually helped me to understand my feelings better and realize that I don't need to "push" my spouse into anything she may be uncomfortable with? Should I quit participating on this board? Am I viewed as a cheater? I can proudly say that in over 20 years of marriage I have never been to bed with anyone but my wife so I am not a cheater in my eyes. We're never too old to learn and I consider my participation on this board more of a learning process than a "cheating" process. So, I guess my message is if you view me as a cheater so be it, but I have to live with my self and my conscience is clear in that respect. Thanks for letting me have my say.
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