"Further, I believe a place like this to come to for reading and friendship might even prevent problems in some relationships. Kind of the "my place" thing, if you understand what I mean."
Elusive BiFem, Your wording above represents one of the more profound messages, which I have read, here on the board.
Furthermore, using the example of not telling a partner about a failing is showing that you do care and preserving the human relationship. To intendedly deceive though is a much darker subject and can never be unaddressed. Nevertheless, I think it is fair to ask of those who have over-simplified their definitions of cheating, deceit etc: How do you expect your trusted friend or partner to grow? Making mistakes and getting into situations that teach about our humanity will make us stronger and more interesting. Is cheating a goal to be reached at the "bottom of the barrel" of your relationships? Over-simplifying is like shutting ones eyes to a challenge and with such absolutes there may be no room to grow. There is another caveat here: Do we always need to learn by trial and error? NOPE! That is why couples need to talk openly and honestly about their feelings and not shut down to the possible risks associated with choices and outcomes.
I could think of many examples, but I won't here and now.
And again, Flassh
"I shut my eyes in order to see." Gauguin
|