Let me start off by saying, we don't condone this behaviour. If this is how you feel, then we think that you should talk with your SO about it before you swing again. Who knows, you may find your SO finds it arousing too. You may even find someone else who feels the same, but please be honest with them. Not being honest and forthright about your desires, to the other person(s), is wrong. Particularly if your intent is extortion, which would make you a criminal.
I believe that, for every vice, there are people who find that very thing arousing. As vices go, though, this one is rather exotic. We all know that breeding with the healthiest and most attractive mate we can is one of the core drives our bodies have. Therefore, I can see where a person would be tempted when they find a person, through swinging, that has a quality they feel their SO lacks. I can also see where someone would be tempted by the "naughty factor". We probubally all know someone that craves attention and/or desires being the center of controversy. What would you do/think if you saw a white mother with a mixed child if you knew her husband, of many years, was white also? Look? Gossip? Both? Some people like that...
I tried to not to be gender specific, since it could go either way, but I would suspect that women feel this way more. Some guys may get off on the thought too, though.
Personally, we would never do anything like this while swinging. If we want to make babies, we can just go home and role play until the swelling starts.
Is there any other factor/reason I missed?
TriumphGuy
PS - I am not a psychoanalyst, but I play one on the internet...
