 What Defines Cheating?
Yawanna and I were having another of our "discussions" yesterday in another thread about cheating spouses and the definition of same. We agree on some points and disagree on others, but it got me to thinking and wondering. (And isn't that the point of discussion?)
This AM I did a google search and read a few articles on cheating and it was rather eye-opening in that there is technology today to identify cheaters that I would have never imagined. Beyond technology, though, the internet has opened many doors for cheating...obviously e-mail and IM, chat rooms, match-making services...those sorts of things.
But I'm still left wondering how others define cheating. Is a married person that lurks on this board cheating? If he participates without the intent of meeting someone is that cheating (assuming his spouse knows nothing of his involvement here)? If a person has a spouse that is opposed to swinging, but that person remains interested in the "concept" and comes here to live out his/her fantasy vicariously - is that cheating? If someone has an occasional generic conversation with someone via e-mail, is that cheating? I have a married friend and we e-mail every 1-2 months - work, church, home types of stuff with nary a mention of sex or intent to meet, etc. Would that be cheating? Personally, I think of this as nothing more than breakroom chit-chat, much like we would have if we worked in the same office.
I don't know...some of the stuff defined as cheating is just life events in my book. But I'm not married so maybe my ideas are different.
How do you define cheating for yourself and what would you consider cheating in your spouse?
- EBF
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