I think I know what you mean. You really do have to trust your instincts. I am thinking of one specific instance where we had talked to a couple online and based on pics didn't find them attractive. We met them hoping that once we met pershaps their personalities would make up for it.. The first time we met them as in a group situation and while they seemed a little reserved we passed it off to being in a large group where they knew noone so we gave it another chance to see if things improved....
but they didn't. We wentto diner, just the 4 of us. They sat at dinner like bumps on a log. My husband (at the time) was a quiet person and these people weren't saying anything which left me feeling like I had to carry the entire conversation for four. So then we were two meetings out and what to do? Granted this was a case where neither of us were interested and the other couple was very interested.... but to me it's not much different than if you are only interested in one. Unless you are willing to split up and swing seperate then you are best off to walk away as early as possible.
I think in situations like these it is that much harder when you have attempted to get to know them because there is that much more invested.
|