In hindsight, we spend to much time getting to know and not enough time trusting our instincts. It is both of our natures (I think) to be open and gracious to those who seem friendly. Unfortunately the male side in our last venture evolved into something detestable. A strong word but if the real person had shown up initially, we probably would have just cut off the dance and looked into others that seemed friendly with just body language! So Yes Julie, we do let ourselves remain open until the "attractiveness" is developed from knowing the others. As it turned out, we felt like we missed being with some other couple that could have been much better. We do not want to "toss out" the soft edges we show to others. But, the example I gave was definately a #3 thing that snuck up on us. I sensed that he was not the "look" that my wife gets googly over. Should I have said something or taken the initiative to stop the socializing as it unfolded? It is hard to even talk through because it seems like we do not have the instinct well placed.
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