I think that you would have to be upfront and honest with the potential father. If you are open enough to have sex with him then you can certainly tell him that he might be a father.
If it were me personally and I had other children I would seriously consider an abortion. That's a little extreme and controversial but what DO you say to your other children -- an adult decision to swing would certainly impact them in ways. If I hadn't had any children, which is the situation I'm in now, I would possibly consider having the child.
An alternative to the pill would be to use a contraceptive film or foam as a back up. It's not something I would advise using prior to oral sex since it tends to change the taste. But it's quick and easy and not messy to use. And you don't have to go to the doctor to get it -- it's available at the drug store/grocery.
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