Julie is right of course. For you its obviously a heck of a lot more than a "kissing" issue.
I can't help but wonder, moral issues aside: Does the idea of you having sex with another man or three turn you on? Are you worried that he will fall in love with another swinger? Do you find that a couple's club is fun place to go? Does the idea of group sex make you hot? Does the idea of a gang bang turn you on?
If you are just insecure (you are afraid he's going to fall for a another if you let him do it) or just have moral issues. Then you may have some hope for transforming from a "tarnished halo" to a "shining little devil"
However, if all aspects of swinging disgusts you, the idea of sex with others totally turns you off, akin to sleeping with a bum who hasn't showered in over a year. Then you just need to just figure out a way to get your hubby to accept it. If you do swing-in spite of the fact that it disgusts you-you might as well go out and sleep with that bum on the street. |