Hi Tarnished,
I agree with Sexhoundog and Mrs LM - You shouldn't consider swinging at this time.
Why? In your previous posts you have stated you probably would never get into swinging and you're seeing a therapist presently to try and resolve what swinging really is and if it will negatively affect your marrage and life choices ( moral, religious, marriage vows, society, family etc). You also said previously that the swinging issue came close to breaking up your marriage. This sounds very much as if your husband persists in forcing the issue and if so that's very, very inconsiderate of your feelings. If it takes both your husband and a therapist to make you think you should take the step to please your husband think it over and over and over.
As stated many times swinging is not for everyone. Once you do it only to please your husband it's something you can never take back, and if it's not for you there will definitely arise other issues of regret between you and your husband. If it's an issue that you have to see a therapist for it's something your husband should realize may have serious complications . You and your husband really should not be mentioning it at all until your out of therapy for quite some time and only when you fully comprehend everything on your own without pressure from anyone.
As said , most people (probably 98%) do not swing and can be perfectly happy - there's enough complications in a marriage without extra pressure. I hope the best for you. You're a brave person for getting this far. |