If you are involved with a therapist and working on 'issues' right now, maybe swinging should take a TOTAL backseat until you are more settled. That said, the no kissing rule is quite common and if you are absolut about it, then your partner should agree to it. Now, having said that, I'll tell you that when dh and I started out on our swing path, we too decided to save kissing for 'our time'...when it came time for our first experience though, kissing was just a natural part of it and neither of us experienced any jealousy. For me (AND my hubby I think), we NEED kissing to get 'warmed up'
but like I said, bottom line, if no kissing is one of your rules, then ALL should abide, including your partner
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