Hi from Central Calif, Vanilla!
We are fairly new to swinging. We started at a club. We found that we were welcome to just window shop, chat, have a few beers, dance...not much pressure to participate. My wife is very pretty so we did get some interest but we said no, we weren't ready for that yet. Everone was very gracious and moved on to other prospects in the room. That could be a benefit of the club scene, your not the only fish on the menu. What did help a lot was the hosts did a great job of touring the location, explaining the ettiquette(?) and making us feel welcome.
We did end up in the open public room where people are allowed to observe others having sex. We sat off to the side to watch, then the Mrs started handling my erection. To my surprise, when a mattress was available she pulled me onto the bed and got me off. We kind of forgot that there were others watching. Then I returned the favor. When she started cumming and making those moans and groans, the whole room started getting off. We suddenly were aware that we were the center of attention. what and ego boost!
I think you'll find that your new partner's are just happy to have you along for the ride. If you're ok with it, his frustration of not having oral from you could be relieved by the new partner. Be assured there will be plrnty to do without feeling onligated to any particular action. |