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Originally posted by wrnakedru
Now - oral, well, that's a different answer entirely, I believe. Still, I have some questions for you. You say the "she" half doesn't like oral.
Are you referring to 'giving' or 'receiving'? To and/or from males? Females? Both?
I don't mean to infer that any particular response to the above questions is necessarily a "deal breaker" in the making for you - simply that the answer to the above questions may make it easier for us to respond to you in a manner more significant to your question.
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First off, thanks so much for the welcome, the responses, and the non-condescending advice. We'd wanted to post our question for ages but were hesitant to do so, fearful that we'd be laughed right off the site:
What, you want to swing but won't do oral or anal? Who are you kidding?!?
We were quite nervous and a tad tipsy (to get up the guts) when we posted, and in hindsight, we realize our post was a bit vague. Thanks for pointing that out, wrnakedru, and for asking for clarification.
Here's the deal: He's open to just about anything not involving pain (and maybe that's just because he's yet to try it!). She loves intercourse (
loves it) and receiving oral, but doesn't want to give it, for personal reasons. We've learned to deal with that, though it's caused us some frustration over the years. Because we love one another deeply, we look beyond the limit, but weren't sure whether potential swing partners would be willing to.
The possiblity that there was an episode in her childhood that keeps her from performing oral (we're really not sure but suspect there may have been) suggests other baggage, but honestly, there's not. She loves sex and can really cut loose, aside from that limit, when aroused. So, we were left wondering if there was hope for us.
You've given us a ton of confidence to establish our limits and stick to them while pursuing a couple that will do the same. We just hope the folks we encounter as we search (and hopefully, play) will be half as nice as you all have been. Thanks again!