Isn't vanilla secretly everyone's favorite flavor?
I think you'd be surprised at what kind of friends you could make - even with your limits. Granted, if a couple is looking for something else, they may play with you, discover your limits aren't working for them and then just greet you at the club. We have friends like that. We played, we didn't like (usually limits don't have a whole lot to do with that) and now they are just good friends when we see them at the club.
We hug and greet people we have or have not played with and we could have a great night at our club even if we just play pool all night (that is a great place to flirt with folks that you wouldn't think of playing with).
I don't think you've "priced yourselves out of the market" at all. I think you are doing just what you should do (as everyone above me has said) - you're approaching the lifestyle on your terms, and your terms will work
Spoomonkey