Well, this one's a bit close to home. Ms Sparky suffers from Multiple Schlerosis - and we have discussed in some detail.
We have both experienced guilt and remorse (before we started this direction) in the past. In fact for a period of time every time (we counted)...for about 20 times we had sex & she orgasmed (visualize mind blowing)....she also experienced some type of episode, or seizure that would just about freak out most people. Imagine my guilt of knowing what was coming in pursuit of my pleasure....and hers in worrying about staying sexually satisfying.....Yet we persevered and finally said "screw it", we're going to live life to the fullest. MOstly she just gets to orgasm for 30 min's instead or starts orgasming at the slightest hint of the erotic. So other than that and a great parking :A), Overall, we're blessed as much as cursed....our life has changed for the better in many ways, and our relationship and honest communication is simply unbelievable. We each found new life friend with each other and our slow intro into the lifestyle has been unbelievable...better each step. As for sexual needs, when/if we're affected, we'll work thru ensuring needs are met whatever happens. Now as for swinging. First we're up front with others - no prob yet. We also have to work around syhmptoms...and finally if she becomes incapacitated and unable to adjust or enjoy....I'd simply lose interest in the lifestyle as all my pleasure and fantasies are derived from rocking her world....Sex with someone might be there and she'd want that, but it would pale in comparson to what we're getting out of each new experience to share with each other for now. If you really love your partner the way most profess, I'd think that the experience would lose a lot of its energy... |